relearning2breath Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 Ok...so maybe not a milestone, but for me it is. 17 days NC and staying strong. I almost fell off the horse. He imed me while i was working... but instead of answering i got on LS and re-read all the threads about NC and why its good for me. Its still raining in Maryland...but the suns shining in my cubicle
Author relearning2breath Posted August 23, 2007 Author Posted August 23, 2007 He just said "Hello" and then I didnt respond he said "why havent you talked to me?" I just ignored that to (which was really, really hard) he always had a way of making me feel guilty. Then I just logged off because I didnt want him to keep iming me and then i break down and talk to him. It just made me feel so good because the girl I was 2 months ago wouldnt have been able to ignore him. And I was just kinda proud of myself and didnt have anyone else to really share that happiness with!
mike5770 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 "Why haven't you talked to me." Translation "why havent you let me play with your head like a cat with a ball for my own personal amusement and then when you get your hopes up again I can toss you aside.." Good for you...he is getting smaller and smaller in your life and he is upset because he is losing his power. I am finally going to the bar where my love crush that went terribly wrong hangs out and I don't care if her and her whatever friend are having sex on the bar..there are other women out there. No contact will lead to him being gone forever and once they have no power over you they can't ever hurt you again. Good for you! Keep up the good work!
Author relearning2breath Posted August 24, 2007 Author Posted August 24, 2007 I completely agree Mike! He tried similar tactics when we first broke up and I caved. He would say stuff like, "why do you hate me?" and I didnt so then Id feel guilty and tell him I didnt hate him and then he'd be like "well you dont care about me then..." and I'd find myself consoling him and trying to make him feel better. Then id get off the phone and be like WAIT a minute! what just happened?! Oy vey. He always knew how to manipulate me! But not anymore
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