Ashbash11 Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 Hello all I'm feeling quite depressed today, and here's why: My ex-boyfriend (we broke up 2 years ago.. first love, went out for over a year) and I were doing a "friends with benefits" sort of relationship for the past few months. I let it continue because I still have feelings for him, and it was the only way that I could feel close to him again. Last night we had a long talk, and he told me that we need to end this "relationship" because it's making him feel guilty when he tries to talk/flirt with other girls and he thinks that it is holding both of us back and not allowing us to grow and move on. He also said that he thinks it will be better for both of us, if we just go back to being platonic friends (which we were for a longg time). He didn't say it explicitly, but I think he still has feelings for me also, and so this will be better for both of us. I feel so crappy because I kind of feel like we've broken up all over again, you know? And I Feel stupid because I knew this would happen eventually, especially if he met someone else... I hate that I let myself get hurt by this guy again. He's hurt me SO much already, and I can't believe that i let it happen again. In our conversation he was suggesting ways for me to meet new guys.. it killed me! I realized that I'm so attached to him now, that I can't even imagine myself with anyone else. How sad!!!!! I'm not sure what i'm looking for with this post.. I guess for any input, or anyone who's been in a similar situation? Misery loves company.
katla Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 Oh yeah, I just ended a year-long "friends with benefits" thing with a guy I'm still VERY much attracted to. I'm missing him like crazy this morning. It sucks, I know, but I think you need to stay away from this guy for however long it takes for you to clear your head and get over him. It sounds like he's causing you a lot of pain; whether or not it's intentional at this juncture is sort of beside the point. Think of him as a hot pan on a stove, honey. You know that every time you draw near you get burned, so why keep coming back for more, you know?
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