bumfuzzled Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 I have a delima. I'm still in love with ex husband and he has also returned those feelings. As of right now I have not done anything stupid as far as cheating on current husband. Just a short history of the situation. Grade school sweethearts got married right out of high school, husband made bad choices and cheated. We seen no other resolution other than divorcing. BUT we both neither really wanted the divorce as I still loved him and he still loved me. But we moved on just because of the circumstances and I just didnt feel it was right at the time, I couldnt forgive him at the time, but later did after the divorce. We still remained distance friends for a few years, then I found current husband and remarried and just stopped talking to the ex, but still had those feelings. We were together for almost 10 years before the divorce, this includes the dating time of 4 years. Now I thought I was over him but have no realized that I am not, nor do I think I ever will be. I believe to the bottom of my heart that he has grew up since then and is now more responsible etc. I have made the decision that I really want to get back with him. Our relationship was great other than the infedelity. I do believe in 2nd chances cause not everyone is in the same "once a cheater always a cheater" category. But heres what I need help with. I love my current husband but I am not in love with him. Sex has never been that grand, do-able but not really what I want, he also will not come on to me, I have to make the first move, you can really only do this so long before you feel unwanted. He gets arroused but doesnt put it into ation, Plus I also think he cannot have children, which is a problem for me. (cannot adopt due to his legal issues that happened before he met me, and cannot get insemmination because of the cost) He is good to me in all other ways, and any woman would be lucky to have him. I feel that I married him more out of convenience and fear of being alone the rest of my life. We met in April, and was married by June. So far our marriage has been a good one other than what I mentioned above. We have now been married for 5 years. How do I tell him I want out, without it hurting him too much and making this an ugly divorce? I am really afraid to talk to him, he's got such a bad attitude about certain things that I am afraid to discuss certain subjects with him. I do not believe he would ever be violent in any way. Can someone give me suggestions??
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