pegasus from asda Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 Hi first time poster basically im in a dilema of my own making (arent we all) I have a friend who was originally my group leader , she was always friendly and chatty , over the last 2 years we have became friends beyond the working thing , she asks advice over other matters and listens to what i have to say , we even confide in each other , only as friends , no sexual stuff whatsoever. We have had a few days and nights out in a group and had a great time (asking me to dance ) and stuff Now the problem , we are both married , our partners are friends now when we all went out we did have fun , when we are on our own we are really close , I just dont get the signs , when we are aloone the signs tell me she wants to be with me , in a group shes really friendly towards me , I know its a crush I just cant tell if Im feeling this on my own or if she feels the same , i cant ask as it would just blow everything apart (as if a affair wouldnt ) I know im kidding myself thinking i would have a affair but im just so freaked out by the way i feel , im in my 40's now and never felt like this , so to sum it up both parties are marrried friends for two years close to me even when our partners are there even closer when apart happily attends family parties days out etc introduces me to her friends and family (and vice versa) If im honest think I have a wonderful life long friend who I have feelings for and feel ashamed for possibly betraying her friendship. I would hate to lose her as a friend , but im getting the more than friends vibe I know being married this will make me look the worst of the worst , im confused by my feelings and I just cant get my head around it thanks for reading
matwithonet Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Is something happening in your relationship, that would make you want to end it. Because if not, I'm a firm believer in you not hanging out with that other girl and see if your feeling fade. Because if you love your wife truly, you need to make that work.
Author pegasus from asda Posted August 23, 2007 Author Posted August 23, 2007 Is something happening in your relationship, that would make you want to end it. Because if not, I'm a firm believer in you not hanging out with that other girl and see if your feeling fade. Because if you love your wife truly, you need to make that work. thats another thing me and my wife "seem" too get on better than ever , we dont argue or fight , sexually better than ever , I just cant get the other out of my mind
Recommended Posts