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Long distance, how many have survive and how many don't

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smoochygirl Established Member

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I have been in a long distance relationship for nearly two years. I really love him so much that i have waited for him. He was 11,000 miles away plus we have a different culture. But i am happily married with him now and finally living together in The US.

A lot of people are telling me that not a lot of people survive long distance relationship. It work for me, i have a lot of faith and at the same time suffering by not being with him. Anyway it is all paid off now, i am happily married. so whats your story?

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One timer, crashed and burned. That was the first and last time I will try one of those again. There's enough men around here. ;)

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Dated for 1.5 years, military sent him home to the US, we were long distance for 2.5 years and I have just moved here to the US to be with him. We are getting married next month.

 

Distance is tough, but I really think that it made us stronger and appreciate each other more (especially going through all that immigration stuff! That was horrible!!). I feel sooooooo happy to finally be here :D

 

I did try long distance before and it didn't work. I think it can work, but only with the right person, and all the heartache and tears caused by the distance seem insignificant compared to what we have now, together.

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We dated for about a year and half long-distance (8-9 hour time difference, ugh!). We've been living together about 6 months now and are getting married in two months. So it can work, but it's not easy.

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Thats a great story Smoochygirl! Congrats!

 

I wonder if the fact you cannot be together easily feeds the desire and fantasy to new levels?

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Dated for 1.5 years, military sent him home to the US, we were long distance for 2.5 years and I have just moved here to the US to be with him. We are getting married next month.

 

Distance is tough, but I really think that it made us stronger and appreciate each other more (especially going through all that immigration stuff! That was horrible!!). I feel sooooooo happy to finally be here :D

 

I did try long distance before and it didn't work. I think it can work, but only with the right person, and all the heartache and tears caused by the distance seem insignificant compared to what we have now, together.

 

It so true, sometimes long distance relationship make you appreciate each other more, but frustrating at the same time. Did you just got here? i been here since last year, Im from asia. what continent are you from if i may ask?

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One timer, crashed and burned. That was the first and last time I will try one of those again. There's enough men around here. ;)

 

;) Do you consider having a R outside your country?

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We dated for about a year and half long-distance (8-9 hour time difference, ugh!). We've been living together about 6 months now and are getting married in two months. So it can work, but it's not easy.

 

Congratz! Isn't it the greatest feeling to finally be with someone you love the most.

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;) Do you consider having a R outside your country?

It was outside my country although I don't think it was an R, more like a T for thing. An LDT.

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Thats a great story Smoochygirl! Congrats!

 

I wonder if the fact you cannot be together easily feeds the desire and fantasy to new levels?

 

Well at first it is exciting to be in a long distance relationship. Plus i can only hear his voice over the phone when we started the relationship. He pretty much know how i look from picture and video of my job, (work for lingerie modeling), i only see his picture though so it brings me more excitement to hear his voice. We talk for about 5 to 8 hours a day, he called me all the time while Im at work or school or home. i finally meet him in 2005 and we live for months there together, my family met him, his the only guy i ever live with and introduce to my family. So after he left my home country to go back to the US it is not fun anymore because i terribly miss him. But like i said it is all paid off now;)

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It was outside my country although I don't think it was an R, more like a T for thing. An LDT.

 

sorry i am such a slow but what is LDT?:o

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sorry i am such a slow but what is LDT?:o

It's a long-distance thing.

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:lmao: Oh my...don't you love those "things?" No one knows exactly what they are schmoochy girl, so don't feel bad. They're usually not real though.
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:lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Okay, okay, I'll explain "thing". It's when only one person is involved. The other person is away on holidays.

 

"Boss, Boss, da plane, da plane".

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:lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Okay, okay, I'll explain "thing". It's when only one person is involved. The other person is away on holidays.

 

"Boss, Boss, da plane, da plane".

 

:lmao: Remember "Fantasy Island?" Yes, it's kind of like that. Like I said, it's not real.

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:lmao: Remember "Fantasy Island?" Yes, it's kind of like that. Like I said, it's not real.

Why is the Star Trek theme playing in my head right now? Space, the final frontier...

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Why is the Star Trek theme playing in my head right now? Space, the final frontier...

 

:lmao::lmao::laugh::laugh: Too damn funny.

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:lmao::lmao::laugh::laugh: Too damn funny.

If you want really funny, try a long-distance thing. It's an experience you'll never forget. :laugh:

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If you want really funny, try a long-distance thing. It's an experience you'll never forget. :laugh:

 

No thanks. Some of us have already been to hell and back.

Trialbyfire Established Member

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No thanks. Some of us have already been to hell and back.

Understood. :(

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I have been in a long distance relationship for nearly two years. I really love him so much that i have waited for him. He was 11,000 miles away plus we have a different culture. But i am happily married with him now and finally living together in The US.

A lot of people are telling me that not a lot of people survive long distance relationship. It work for me, i have a lot of faith and at the same time suffering by not being with him. Anyway it is all paid off now, i am happily married. so whats your story?

 

I think that's a great story, smoochygirl. I'm not against long-distance relationships in principle. But if you want someone to be with in three dimensions, then they can be a way of selling yourself short. They require an amount of faith that I don't have.

 

I've had long distance relationships. The last one I had was short-lived, but she was a special person. If we lived near each other, I'm sure it would have worked out. I just couldn't deal with more distance in my most important relationship. I'm not willing to sign up to promises of a future together at some unknown future date. That date never comes.

 

I'm not sure I'll ever have the patience I had before. It's not a choice, it's just a reaction. Considering the amount of faith you have to put in someone to be with them, regardless of the distance, I'm pretty sure I'm not capable of having a relationship now. I don't desire one. But I'm happy for you.

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It so true, sometimes long distance relationship make you appreciate each other more, but frustrating at the same time. Did you just got here? i been here since last year, Im from asia. what continent are you from if i may ask?

 

Yeah I just got here a week ago. I'm from Europe - England in fact.

 

Where in Asia are you from?

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Congratulations Smoochygirl and Catrocks!:) It's so nice to hear success stories!

 

Congratz! Isn't it the greatest feeling to finally be with someone you love the most.

 

It is wonderful, but totally unexpected. I knew my BF for years before, but because of the distance and timing and a million other little circumstances I never imagined we would ever even date, let alone move in together and decide to get married! :laugh: I'm not complaining though!

 

I just couldn't deal with more distance in my most important relationship. I'm not willing to sign up to promises of a future together at some unknown future date. That date never comes.

 

That's really true Johan. I don't think LDRs work if you don't figure out a definite plan to be together in the future. It takes a lot of trust and commitment to count on somebody to change their life for you and to be willing to change your life for them.

 

For us, we made a plan to move to be together fairly early on. The "moving in" talk happened earlier than it EVER would have in a non-LDR (4 months in), but it was necessary because we needed 12 months from that point to make all the necessary arrangements with work, immigration, finances, etc. There were a few moments of "is this really happening?" but all in all it went smoothly. It actually was nice to have that "waiting" period, to each continue in our separate lives for a year to be sure we were comfortable with what might seem an impulsive decision. Of course, we did visit and were in touch by internet and phone during that time.

 

I'm not sure I'll ever have the patience I had before. It's not a choice, it's just a reaction. Considering the amount of faith you have to put in someone to be with them, regardless of the distance, I'm pretty sure I'm not capable of having a relationship now. I don't desire one. But I'm happy for you.

 

LDRs are not for everyone and mine just happened to work out. I wasn't looking for it and I don't think that I'd have been willing to have one with anyone other than my BF. And even then, a key factor in our success was timing. If we had tried this even just a couple of years ago, I doubt it would have worked.

 

You seem like such a smart guy with a great sense of humor. When you're ready, you'll find the right person. :)

Touche Established Member

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Understood. :(

 

Now I COMPLETELY understand!

Trialbyfire Established Member

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Now I COMPLETELY understand!

Woah baby, so do I...

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