charliepapa Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 I have a minor crush on my like coach and I do not want it. We have a lot in common and we even dance with each other but I am not sure even if she would be interested in me especially since she knows all my dirty secrets and have vented to her over my life. I do not have a woman at the moment to think about and at the moment she is the one I am thinking about. I suppose I need to find another woman to think about by but that is one of the reasons why am working with her. I wish she had a boyfriend then she will be off my radar. Anyone have any thoughts?
corazoncito Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 Sorry to be dense, but what's a life coach? A type of counselor? Would it be a kind of conflict of interest for her to date you?
Author charliepapa Posted August 22, 2007 Author Posted August 22, 2007 Exactly, but not necessarily conflict of interest but somewhat unethical (whatever that means). Problem is we are becoming friends more than just a professional relationship and of course I want to discuss getting a sex life.
corazoncito Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 Maybe you should speak candidly with her about the fact you feel that some lines have been crossed that make it difficult for you to talk to her in her capacity as a counselor. Not to say that it's necessarily inappropriate behavior on either persons part, more just that you realize you've developed feelings that may make the counselor-client relationship difficult. She probably has had training on how to deal with such situations? Can you explain the dancing reference though? That doesn't seem like an appropriate interaction between an counselor and a client. Did she have to go through some formal training and certification or is this a more informal type of job?
Author charliepapa Posted August 22, 2007 Author Posted August 22, 2007 At the moment I just want a friend, not a relationship, though sex would be nice. Hence I can concentrate on friendship with her as nothing else is possible. Though have not had sex in over 6 months and feeling edgy and a bit of a tosser because I have not had sex for so long.
corazoncito Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 At the moment I just want a friend I think you should tell her this. I am a little confused about the life coach reference. I take it this is how you met her? If you find she's a good friend and it helps you to talk to her about your problems it seems like you should focus on that aspect of your relationship with her. If her being your life coach is causing problems (for example, you feel the need to discuss your sex life since she is a counselor but feel awkward about it because you are seeing her more as a friend as you get to know her), maybe you could just be friends rather than a counselor and client?
Author charliepapa Posted August 22, 2007 Author Posted August 22, 2007 I If you find she's a good friend and it helps you to talk to her about your problems it seems like you should focus on that aspect of your relationship with her. If her being your life coach is causing problems (for example, you feel the need to discuss your sex life since she is a counsellor but feel awkward about it because you are seeing her more as a friend as you get to know her), maybe you could just be friends rather than a counsellor and client? You right I do not know where this is going. At the moment I don't know and don't care. We are going for coffee eventually after dancing which has been postponed twice, so we will see. Thanks. p.s. She is a professional and if I am paying her to discuss my sex life (or lack of it) that's all it will be - well for me anyway, I want be uncomfortable.
corazoncito Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 p.s. She is a professional and if I am paying her to discuss my sex life (or lack of it) that's all it will be - well for me anyway, I want be uncomfortable. Sound fair enough to me! Good luck!
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