Dani_babii Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 well recently my ex and i have gotten super close, we're pretty close to getting back together i think but he says i need to stop worrying so much ( i worry about everything way way too much), he says its one of the reasons he broke up with me in the first place. im enjoying our time together so much right now n i dont want to ruin that, im trying to stop worryin so much, but i need some advice on how to get over it especially when nothings wrong. any advice on how i can make myself stop worrying so much, its not even just worryin about our relationship its worrying about other things too. please i need some help i dont wanna lose him and i really want us back together. any advice??
KittenMoon Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 This might not be what you want to hear, but have you tried an anti-anxiety medication? I used to worry TONS and since I started taking it I hardly worry about things at all.
popey Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Don't know if I'm failing to understand the magnitude here, but when I was so stressed that it was effecting my relationship at the time, I took up yoga and we both noticed a difference.
Author Dani_babii Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 This might not be what you want to hear, but have you tried an anti-anxiety medication? i was actually thinking the samething bcos most times i cant control the worrying, like if he doesnt answer my text right away, i cant help but worry that i said something wrong to upset him or something but in reality i know hes at work and i know i didnt say anything wrong and i know he'll answer me when he gets a chance. i dont want to worry but i cant control it. im only 19, i shouldnt be worrying or dwell this much about stupid little things, should i?
Selone Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Dear Dani Babii, I understand you very well. I can see that you are a very smart girl and If you let me, I'd like to advise you about it. Please please please don't let the worrying affect your relationship and your life in general. The thing is when you worry so much you might always expect the worst, might have a negative attitude in general even when you don't realize it and you might appear to be needy and clingy even when you are not. Your boyfriend, no matter how much he loves you, will probably not be able to understand your unexplainable itch to call him, ask him questions, etc. (all sorts of compulsive things that you do to find relief) and he might start to sense as if there is some kind of unsecurity, neediness about you even though you are very far from being those. Accept that you might be a person who worry too much (and also remember that other people who don't worry that much will misinterpret your reactions) and when you worry and sense "the itch" try to remember that it is your "over worrying", or your mind is exaggerating things and you don't need to do anything about it. Fast and quick reliefs might make you feel temporarily relieved but in the long run, with all the negativity as a result of all that worry, your loved ones might start to feel uneasy around you and they might not even know why. Please be aware of it, don't let it go to extremes without you even realizing it, and pray everyday and whenever you worry, for help. I don't know about yoga but keeping yourself busy with exercise, hobbies, anything you can develop a passion for (other than bf) will also be helpful for you and for your relationship with your bf. Please try to be grateful about everything in your life, enjoy and appreciate the good things, always hope and look for the best, and let your bf love you even more. Let yourself receive the love that you want and deserve. Good luck and best wishes.
IMUSTBEAFOOL Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 When someone worries alot they develop a pattern of behavior whenever a potentially stressful situation arises. I bet it is related to not having some of her emotional needs not being met - then that has a rebouynd effect - women usually turns into miserable ***** when they feel neglected or abandoned. The answer is simple - just sit down and talk about what this is all about and come up with a solution together :love:
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