soulseeker Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 I have been seeing a younger man for about 4 months now, three of which, he was away for. During this time, he kept in touch with me as much as I kept in touch with him. I was kind of surprised we stayed in touch as we had only being seeing each other for 3 weeks when he left. He came back about a week ago and stopped by my apt the morning after he arrived in town to surprise me. I wasnt there, but he called me after and to let me know and asked me to call him back "soon". We met up that night and it was nice, really nice. Lots of atlking, some, you know, but mostly talking. A day later I ran into him at school and he asked if I was busy later that day. I said I dont know call me. Well, 9 comes around and no call. Now I know he is busy working at schoo, so I call him and ask if he wants to get together. He enthusiascitcally says yes, and that he didnt realise it was so late. We hang out at his house and I end up sleeping over. We did not have sex and havent yet. He told me on this night that I "make him happy." Now I know this is good, obviously, but it doesnt seem that there is an urgent need for him to see me. A couple of days will go by before I hear from him it seems, unless I call him. I am into him so much that in theory, I'd like to see him everyday. I just wonder if maybe he is shy, or not that into it, or just doesnt need to see me as much as Id like to see him. I think I am freaking out over nothing, but I am haunted by my last relationship. What do you guys think? THanks I am writing this quickly at work, and I hope it makes sense.
jcster Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 He just got back into town a week ago, so it might just be that he's busy getting back into his life. I think right now you're going to have to trust what he says, and wait for him to settle in before deciding what his commitment is.
Author soulseeker Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 Is it possible that he is way into me but his pace is just slower than mine? I mean, does someone need to be up your a$$ to be into you?
Author soulseeker Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 Should I assume since there hasnt been much advice given that I am being ridiculous and of course he is interested, but perhaps shy? It seems that I can give others great advice, but have issues following my own sometimes >< C'mon guys, help a girl out. Thanks
Yellowboy Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Man I wish my girls would love to see me everyday. I dunno, maybe he doesn't want to appear clingy or needy? Maybe he *does* want to see you everyday but doesn't want to scare you, or maybe he is really just busy. Why don't you take the initiative more often, but you also have to make sure you aren't the one appearing to be clingy either. You guys are probably at the point where both of you are still gauging as to what you want from each other. I feel I am exactly in this situation right now, though maybe a little bit more complicated matters (involving the girl's ex). Anyhow, good luck to you
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