lonely_blue Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 my gf split up with me about a month ago. her reasons for splitting up was that she was not being treated properly. after a week of nc i asked to meet up to talk about things properly, she didnt want to as she said it was to early, but would let me know when she was ready. after another week i asked her again and she said she would see what she was upto at the weekend. anyway we met that weekend and talked things over. she came up with other reasons why she wanted to end it, which included doing things, on her own, she had never mentioned before,also that she thought i talked to one of my friends about our relationship, and she was a third person in our relationship(she is mentioned below.) a week and half later i was told she had mentioned to someone else at work that one my other female friends, also her friend, was one the reasons. i sent her a text to meet briefly later that day, not telling her why. she wanted to no what about, so i just told her about last week and not when we met up. she then replied that she wanted to leave it a few more weeks as she was still upset how things had happend, and asking if this about the afformentioned other friend. i replied saying that i didnt understand why she thought that she was part of our relationship. after a few more msges i said i was gonna stop because this couldnt be done properly via txt. she replied with a very angry txt (no other messges sent by either of us were angry). it included a personal insult. and saying she didnt want to get pi**ed of with me, but was angry about other people trying to get involved in what happend. after waiting 30mins i replied telling her that all i wanted was a quick chat, and that this is what she turned it into, and let her no how hurt i was at the comment, and gave her another suggestion of a cheap shot she could have at me. she replied saying that i new her reasons for ending it and why she was unhappy, and didnt no why other people had to get involved. and appologising that she hurt me and didnt mean to do it. i did not reply to this and 10mins later she sent another saying she so sorry. again i didnt reply. 1hr30mins later she sent another appologising again sying she didnt know who was her was her friend at the moment and wanted things t be ok between us. i replied saying this was what i wanted aswell. she replied again saying she was sick of other people sticking there noses in, again. then said sorry for the fact that she was over our relationship..despite earlier saying that she was upset how things had happend. i have now not had any contacted with her since. not even when i see her at work. Im confused, any advice?
Scorpio13c Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 Hey Lonely_blue, Take 1 aspirin & don't talk to her for 1 week. See how it goes then.
Author lonely_blue Posted August 22, 2007 Author Posted August 22, 2007 cheers scorpio... she did contact me about her mail a few days ago and only replind to let her no where i would leave, apart from that im not starting any conversation with her.
birdie Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 do what's best for you, not sure about ignoring her when you see her at work but understand of course why you do that. to be honest, she just sounds to me like she is all over the shop at the moment (hence the angry texts), she is probably a little bit impulsive anyway (I'm like that) so doesn't need much to get her going in the wrong direction. best thing is time I think. talk to her when she's calmed down and can think clearly not sure what she means by 'people sticking their noses in', couldn't quite follow that bit
Author lonely_blue Posted August 22, 2007 Author Posted August 22, 2007 i think people at work have fallen out with her because of several things, including what has happend with me. but what has been said or done i dont know. all she said was that she was at a low point when she sent the txt. im just hoping that she may appologise to my face, if she ever decides to talk to me again.
birdie Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 it's really hard when your work and private lives get mixed up, that's why I won't date people from work ever again. she obviously feels that she cannot escape because she has to confront the issue at work and then in her spare time as well. that must be so claustrophobic. I know she was horrid to you and said something cruel but I don't think she is being herself right now. I am sure she will apologise, I hope you'll have the chance soon to sit down and talk and when you tell her calmly that you didn't appreciate that insult and that it hurt you, she will feel pretty bad I should think
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