Missing my MM

[Love4Eternity]

I am not looking for pity or anything i guess i just needed a place to let things out since i have to bottle them up inside due to the situation i have myself in.

 

my mm is away for several months due to his work, i know where he is at and I know that the environment he is in it isnt fun or really an ideal place to be but its part of his job so he has to do it he works 7/12 every single day and he tries to email me as much as he can which can come and go day to day depending on how busy he gets. so far he has tried to email me everyday but yesturday was the first time i didnt get an email from him to know how he is (this is how i keep my sanity knowing where he is at) well he emailed but it was at like 1 this morning stating there are some "issues" he is dealing with there so he has been swamped (yes i believe him because i know what he is doing there), here is the thing though, i have to much time on my hands so i constantly think about him and worry about him and MISS him soo much, you would think i would be use to this since i have known him for 8 yrs and had several, alot i should say of NC in betweens..but now that we have found ourselves together again, and he had to go away so soon afterwards, i find myself missing him terribly more then i expected, my question is, how do you cope with your mm/mw is away from you and the only contact you really have is either non or email (i got one phone call since he left apx a month ago) he cannot call he is out of the country and its hard for him so he emails mostly to keep me posted on whats going on but then as i said, sometimes i dont hear from him and then i start to worry about him (his safety mainly)...what do you do to keep yourself busy while they are away from you???

[KATANYA]

I guess my situation does not exactly compare to yours as my MM is not going to be gone for nearly so long - however, I have always maintained a very active life away from our life together so I have made sure to pack it even busier. I find it helps to plan your days in advance - make sure you have things that you know you are going to need to do and focus on preparing for them (work projects, home renovations, lunch/dinner with friends..) Nights and weekends are always the hardest but keep yourself busy, busy, busy! Its expecially hard to get used to not having the phone calls, etc. but I know he calls when he can and he can usually tell me when he will call again so I don't find myself constantly wondering when I will hear from him! Consider his e-mails wonderful little surprises!

 

I also started working out more which is a great stress reliever. Even if you don't work out, find some type of exercise to do that you would like (walking, stationery bike with your ipod blasting upbeat music - whatever works for you!) You will feel a lot better working off some of your stress and worry and it beats sitting around waiting for the computer to beep saying you've got mail!!!

 

Whatever you do, don't stop going out and doing things you enjoy - even if you don't feel like doing them. You are worried about his safety and are lonely for him but you need to take care of yourself too! I hope he gets home soon and safely!

 

Take care.

[Love4Eternity]

Thank you for your advice, I am going to take your advice start working out and am in the process of looking for a job as well.....I just got an email from him a few hours ago and he is working 13+ hours now and has worked more since he has been there i am trying to be supportive and understanding and I know that when he does have a free time he needs to contact his family first so i do appreciate when he does write me at least its something i guess...at least he sent me a pic too so now i can look at it every so often ... i sure hope Dec gets here fast!!! and i thought I would never say that...

[waiting4heaven]

Is MM in the military? If so there are plenty of ways to still connect while he is gone....my H is military so living that life style is what I have grown used to for 9 years.