Lost in love

[newlywed]

Hello everyone!

 

I'm 25 years old and have been single for almost 4 years. I've been very busy with career and since I really love my job and my ambitions I find it difficult to cope with dating or relationship stuff.

 

One time my officemates set me up for a blind date. The guy is nice -- working, not-so-good looking, but nice. At another time I tried online dating, chatting and the likes. I've met all sorts of men -- poor and rich, aggressive and conservative, unemployed and working, etc...But until now I don't know what am I looking for.

 

Nowadays, I feel irritated and easily angered every time a guy approaches me. Is this still normal?

[stillafool]

It's not about what is normal, it's about what you want. If you don't want to date at this point in your life and you find men annoying then don't feel guilty about it. Just be yourself and do what you like. You obviously find your work very fulfulling. Good luck!

[Yosef]

Not everyone is meant to fall in love. If you're a very independent person then love will be hard to deal with, always giving your significant-other non-stop attention, and it can be hard.

 

If you do desire relationship, the attention you've been recieving from your co-workers isn't helping the situation much, if not making it worse. You might just need some nice, peaceful alone time in a comfortable setting to unwind.

[ftheunion]

Here is the evolutionary explanation of life.

 

The reason whe age and mature is to reproduce. Evolution gave your nice young figure, breasts, curves, etc.

 

Anyway, 45,000 years ago in africa and europe, a pair-bond (couple) just had each other. Love and lust is meant to hook two people together so the child can survive infancy and toddler years.

 

Evolution gave men the ability to instantly recognize an attractive female, if he didn't then he would die alone. That's why a guy that gets a girl in teenage years has a good chance of growing up to marry her. That is advantageous. That is why men approach you.

 

 

Dunno maybe you should look into philosophy at college or a forum. Will your career mean anything to you or anybody else in a period of 10,000 years? I'm not tellin you what you should or shouldn't do.

 

If you want the existential explanation. Love is a choice. A person chooses to care about that other person more than themselves, and chooses to stay with them.

 

I've got a few issues and gripes about women, but I am never approached by them, and probably never will be.

 

In mammels, the women has the burden of raising the young, so they are picky about males. They usually have the final say in love and sex. Guys have to seek out a mate. That's why most girls like the guys to come and charm them.

 

But I'll agree that today the good looking women get tired of it. It will continue, because guys are driven to mate with pretty women. Most never get one, but you have to admire how they try.