Alexandra-Girl Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 Hey LS'rs, Quick Question: If you haven't seen someone in a number of years, that you were once intimate with and always found beautiful, how would you like to see them dressed when you meet again? Backgrounder: I am going to a funeral of an old friend. I found out about his death from this 'someone' I used to date many years ago. We had an unusual break-up, but of course, reflection and growth set in during the years, apologies were made and now we plan to meet and catch up after the funeral. When we were together I wore both jeans and dresses. I will always have a fondness for this man, but given that our lives have been distant for quite sometime, I am wondering what attire is appropriate for drinks. We have had a vast number of conversation exchanges and there appears to be testing of waters and subtle flirting. The anticipation to meet is there. We are both busy professionals and are between the 30-35 age range. Accordingly, I would like to leave a TASTEFUL mental image in his mind, along with great conversation and laughter. I was wondering if I were to wear something that reveals my legs, like a knee-length taylored dress, would it be inappropriate? Perhaps I should just wear jeans, a blouse, and a blazer? What would leave a mental image most unlikely to fade? I am quite sure he will be taking the time to do his 'hair' (a.k.a best to look appealing) No trench-coats and stilleto men need to remark Thanks for the forthcoming answers. Alex.
charliepapa Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Dress like the beautiful woman you are - maybe a dress, understated and not to much, but like you are making an effort, even just for an old friend. Paul
2sunny Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 a conservative black or navy dress would be appropriate.
jcster Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Ummm. How about you dress for a funeral? There's just something really inappropriate in my mind to be wondering what to wear in order to ignite an old flame when you're going to a friend's funeral. Are you going to be thinking about drinks during the eulogy? There isn't one thing that you could wear that will make it tasteful.
Author Alexandra-Girl Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 I'm sorry Jcster, I should have clarified that I am NOT meeting him the day of the funeral but later during the week. I must fly into the town to attend the funeral and will be spending a few days there. Thinking of myself when my old friends are grieving would be entirely inappropriate, not to mention disrespectful to the families involved. Thanks again, Alex
Krytellan Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 I would say just dress like the person you are now. Don't worry about the past. What do you wear now when you want to impress the guys? Do that.
Trimmer Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 I had assumed you were talking about a meeting completely separate from the actual funeral itself... I agree with not going too overboard, but make a little effort. I can't remember who said it, but "a slightly better version of yourself." If I were meeting an old flame about whom I still felt good, I would be so much looking forward to just being with her and having the chance to talk and catch up that exactly how she dressed would probably be a second-order effect. Be comfortable and look nice, but the subtleties of exactly how you do it aren't going to make or break the get-together.
Road Rage Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Dress to reveal your legs. Don`t wear any kind of crap that is business like. Women some times really miss the mark with clothes when trying to read the mind of a man.
jcster Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 'm sorry Jcster, I should have clarified that I am NOT meeting him the day of the funeral but later during the week. Oh! My mistake! Sorry. Sometimes you never know, especially on LS. In that case, I would pick something that you feel especially comfortable in. Something casual, but hot. Something that says, "I look this good all the time, I don't even NEED to pull out the big guns!" Sorry again about my assumption that this was after the funeral...eek.
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