SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 So here it goes- about 2 months ago I started to get a little closer to this guy at work, joking around with each, whatever.. He is the same age as me (early 30's) and single as well. We go back and for with each flirting for weeks then it stops for like a week or two to the point where I don't see him or talk to him even over email. One of my friends tells me that I should just email him and say whats up and I say I am not doing that because he obviously is not interested because if he was he would try to pursue me (I emailed him last and he never responded back). So I don't do anything... I find out through the grapevine that he got a new new job and was leaving in 2 weeks. So I think ok maybe I should email him, what do I have to lose, so I email him and we make small talk and he wants to know if I want to hang out, we go back and forth for a while and the day that he leaves I give him my number and he says he will call me. That same day 10 mins before it was time to go he calls me on work phone and says well im leaving so I will see you soon, when can I call you and I tell him whenever you want. Well its been 3 weeks and he never called. Someone please tell me why a guy would do that? I don't even care about him so much, its just the whole situation, why go through all of that, get my number and never call? I could understand if I met him out a bar and he never called, it wouldnt bother me but we worked together for almost 3 yrs, it just doesnt make sense to me or my friends. It just seems like this stuff would happen to me? Any guys have any thoughts?
ca2zs Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 I'm not saying that it's your job, but perhaps he lost your number moving in between jobs.
Author SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 Why don't you try calling him? Well for one I don't have his number and the other is because I feel like a guy should pursue a girl.
4Q2 Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 Well its been 3 weeks and he never called. Someone please tell me why a guy would do that? I don't even care about him so much, its just the whole situation, why go through all of that, get my number and never call? ... Any guys have any thoughts? Just a guess but maybe he lost your number, busy and all. People read to much into everything before they know the truth. Why is it the man that has to make the move? What is stopping you from trying to contact him?
Author SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 I'm not saying that it's your job, but perhaps he lost your number moving in between jobs. He knows my work number and email address, if he really did lose my number he could get in touch with me.
ca2zs Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 Well for one I don't have his number and the other is because I feel like a guy should pursue a girl. Love happens in mysterious ways. In my opinion, maybe in this particular scenario you are suppose to pursue him. Now I'm not saying you two are meant for each other or anything, but maybe he did, really lose your number or something, maybe he is getting stressed out at his new job and is really busy, maybe he is just a prick and didn't care to call you back, it could be a million different reasons. But you won't find out unless you really want to find out.
Author SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 Just a guess but maybe he lost your number, busy and all. People read to much into everything before they know the truth. Why is it the man that has to make the move? What is stopping you from trying to contact him? What am I reading into? Do you think this is normal what he did? I can't really contact him when I don't have any of his info.
Author SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 Love happens in mysterious ways. In my opinion, maybe in this particular scenario you are suppose to pursue him. Now I'm not saying you two are meant for each other or anything, but maybe he did, really lose your number or something, maybe he is getting stressed out at his new job and is really busy, maybe he is just a prick and didn't care to call you back, it could be a million different reasons. But you won't find out unless you really want to find out. Its not really about him to be honest. I think I just have a history of these kind of things happening to me. It just doesn't make sense, like I said its not like I met him at a bar or online and the guy asked for my number and he never called. I knew him for almost 3 yrs. I don't get it.
directx Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 I don't think he is that in to you, to be honest. I would just make it clear that he should email you once he starts his new job. But then he will probably forget about you because he will be so busy getting situated and looking at the new trim there. Call him two weeks after he starts if he doesn't call you and ask how the new job is. Trade new emails. If he doesn't contact you after that, forget about it
ca2zs Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 Its not really about him to be honest. I think I just have a history of these kind of things happening to me. It just doesn't make sense, like I said its not like I met him at a bar or online and the guy asked for my number and he never called. I knew him for almost 3 yrs. I don't get it. I'm sorry to hear that. Ask around at work, see if anyone else knows where he is, like I said, it could be a million reasons why, there are a lot of guys out there that are pricks. But don't wait around forever trying to figure out where he went, or wait for his call, try to find him if you want to, or don't and just forget about it. The choice is yours.
Author SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 I don't think he is that in to you, to be honest. I would just make it clear that he should email you once he starts his new job. But then he will probably forget about you because he will be so busy getting situated and looking at the new trim there. Call him two weeks after he starts if he doesn't call you and ask how the new job is. Trade new emails. If he doesn't contact you after that, forget about it ??????? Why bother asking for my number?
Lizzie60 Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 If I were you I would not bother... You did contact him on a few occasions... and he seems to like the attention ... f* him... move on...
Author SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 I'm sorry to hear that. Ask around at work, see if anyone else knows where he is, like I said, it could be a million reasons why, there are a lot of guys out there that are pricks. But don't wait around forever trying to figure out where he went, or wait for his call, try to find him if you want to, or don't and just forget about it. The choice is yours. Thanks, I was just trying to understand why. Even my friends don't get it (males included) I have no choice but to forget about it. I just recently ended a LTR with someone a few mths ago and I was ok being by myself and this had to happen. I swear I am never going to meet a decent guy, oh well.
Author SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 If I were you I would not bother... You did contact him on a few occasions... and he seems to like the attention ... f* him... move on...[/quote all I know is- what a waste of time ahaha
ca2zs Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 Thanks, I was just trying to understand why. Even my friends don't get it (males included) I have no choice but to forget about it. I just recently ended a LTR with someone a few mths ago and I was ok being by myself and this had to happen. I swear I am never going to meet a decent guy, oh well. All good things come to those who wait. But waiting for men to initiate something towards you, in my opinion, doesn't really get you anywhere, you also have to take the initiative to find the people you like as well.
Road Rage Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 Snugglebunny Guys get your info to keep their options open and then decide later if they want to follow through. It`s mostly a guy thing you know. You chat some gal up and then walk away with obtaining any contact info and later wish you had. So, it is just part of the chase as a matter of habit to get info when chatting up gals. Good practise too:D So, it looks like he decided not to follow through. I mean there was no signed contract or anything was there???
Author SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 Snugglebunny Guys get your info to keep their options open and then decide later if they want to follow through. It`s mostly a guy thing you know. You chat some gal up and then walk away with obtaining any contact info and later wish you had. So, it is just part of the chase as a matter of habit to get info when chatting up gals. Good practise too:D So, it looks like he decided not to follow through. I mean there was no signed contract or anything was there??? It seems a little juvenile for a 30 something year old guy to be doing, doesn't it? Or I am I just nuts?
ca2zs Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 It seems a little juvenile for a 30 something year old guy to be doing, doesn't it? Or I am I just nuts? It depends on who the guy is really. Maybe for him, he is a little bit more immature then most men, can't face the ropes and tell you that there is nothing in between you two, whatever the reason may be, the fact is that you can't rely on someone else to do something like that, thats how people get hurt.
Road Rage Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 snugglebunny Maybe not every guy is going to be like that. I must admit I have done it and then didn`t follow through. You just need time to reflect when things are uncertain. Age doesn`t have much to do with it IMO. But, probably more of it with young guys but they are probably chatting up a ton of gals too.
4Q2 Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 What am I reading into? Do you think this is normal what he did? I can't really contact him when I don't have any of his info. "...what he did?" This implies some action on his part that might contain ill will. If anything an omission on his part is not an act of anything. Your inability to contact him is your undoing, guess YOU weren't really interested in him. Otherwise you would have acted.
Author SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 I guess I just attract the wrong kind of men. I could tell you some pretty insane stories but I will spare all of you haha
ca2zs Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 I guess I just attract the wrong kind of men. I could tell you some pretty insane stories but I will spare all of you haha That's not any way to look at things. You could meet someone tomorrow, fall in love with him, and be together for the rest of your life. It all depends on what is happening tomorrow
kvq Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 Im pretty sure he became uninterested and then figured he could avoid any trouble by breaking contact because he knew he was moving soon anyway. When you came calling he probably didnt want to deal with anything so he acted like he was still your friend and everything was cool he was just busy and then once he moved, he was free and never needed to call back.
Author SnuggleBunny Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 That's not any way to look at things. You could meet someone tomorrow, fall in love with him, and be together for the rest of your life. It all depends on what is happening tomorrow I could but reality it doesn't happen like that for me EVER. I swear I think I am cursed and I am not just saying that. Don't get me wrong- I attract guys all the time. I am not just trying to toot my own horn but I happen to be a very attractive woman and very sweet person. No one that knows me can understand why I can't get a guy to ask me out on a date. I have had nothin but BS relationships all my life with the exception of maybe one. I don't walk around all sulky or whatever, no one knows how I feel on the inside but when I do have a bad day and I can't hold my emotions in I have had people say to me "oh what are you upset about you can have anything you want" Its tiring after a while.
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