JamesC78 Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 This is a long story, so you should get a snack... I've been dating this woman for almost 2 and a half years. She is a 30 year old single mom with a 6 year old daughter. (i'm 28, never been married, no kids) Lately, she has a lot going on and we've had a few issues as well. Her grandma has got some domestic issues as well and my gf has been helping her with that. She has an issue with her ex-husband. He isn't taking care of the daughter the way he should be and she took him to court. (He's a real bastard, treated them like crap and cheated on her alot when they were married) A guardian ad litem was appointed in the case. She said that while this is court case is going on, we should take a break and just be friends. (she thinks her Ahole ex husband is going to say something negative to the guardian about me, he did during the divorce case) She said she wanted to take some time and needs some space because she feels that she doesn't have time to be in a relationship. (Told me this via text message but said that we need to be friends til things are back to normal) She said that she doesn't want me to wait for this guardianship (could take years) and that it's ok if I see other people. She said that she doesn't have time for a relationship now. I care so much about this woman and her daughter and I don't want us to be apart. She also said she wants to reconnect with her friends and she has been going out nearly every weekend. I don't think she has been with anyone else either. (I've seen her out a few times and I know bout everyone in town) We've still been having sex occasionally but last weekend she said that "I can't do this anymore." (I called her up at 3 in the morning the previous night and went to her house and slept there.) But she booty called me 2 days later. (don't mean to brag but we have great sex and she said she never got off before but can do it with me everytime.) By the way, I'm not a scum bag or anything, I work full time, I just graduated college, I'm a veteran, but I do have some money problems (student loans). However, it's nothing I can't handle. I care so much about this woman. She means the world to me and I can't stop thinking about her. I don't know what to do. It sounds like she doesn't want me around while the guardianship is taking place. Also, I don't want to seem like I'm her doormat either. She also said that she hasn't had time to miss me, but I'm only with her 2 - 4 days a week. How do I get her back? I haven't eaten in 3 days and I haven't been sleeping well. On one hand I believe her, but on the other hand it sounds like a cop out. O yeah, she did say she didnt have time to miss me. I told her I loved her after she said we should be friends. she said that was kinda awkward for me to keep saying I love you at this point. But later that day she said, yes I do still love you. So, how do I get her back? I love her alot and her daughter. But I don't wanna be played out. If I give her time, how long should I wait before I know it's through. Do I move on? (I've got a few girls at work that asked me out) Do I go to no contact and wait for her to call me? What do I say to her to get her back? Should I play hard to get? Thanks for your help!
kdaddy68 Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 I can feel your pain. My situation is different in how it played out but I can relate on some levels. All i can say is the best thing to do is give her space to go figure out what she wants but keep your backbone. Meaning just don't let everything be on her terms if you don't get what you want as much as what she wants then its not worth it for you and it wont work out. This has to be equal.
Author JamesC78 Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 thx man, you're right. How much time should i give her? she called yesterday but i didnt answer. I called back and she didnt answer. O yeah, btw, I booty called (via text) her friday, but she never responded.
kdaddy68 Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 There is no "right' amount of time...just enough for her (and you) to sort things out...go away for a weekend and do some things to keep you busy for a bit...don't play games with her but don't be so available until she figures some things out....let her contact you for a bit but like i said dont play games...answer the phone and call her back. Just stick to what you want out of the relationship....
Author JamesC78 Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 o yeah, i have a dental appointment at her office in 2 days. should i talk to her then about us or just act casual?
brokenhearted4243 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 don't talk to her at the office. give some space and let her bring it up at a later time. act normal at the office
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