curlgrl21 Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 Ok my x broke up with me like 2 months ago to be with someone else. I told him that i still wanted to be his friend and he agreed. Now he is calling me all the time he always wants to know what i am doing and what i am doing later. If i say i am going out he is like "o with who?". He is always complaing about his new girlfriend and its not just to me its to his family and stuff two but if he is so unhappy then why did he ask her to marry him? In one day he called me 6 times and if he thinks i am mad at him then he will text or call me constantly till i answer him. I dont know what to think or do about this guy i love him so much and i am trying to let him go and figure out what it is that he wants but he just confuses me so much i need help...
CrazyPanda Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 From what I'm reading it just sounds like he's keeping you on an end of a string or backburner as some people would say. He's only keeping contact with you incase his current relationship he's in isn't going to work out. And at the moment, his relationship seems to be not going so well, that might be the reason why he's keeping close contact and wondering who you're going out with to make sure you're still single. By tugging on the string and knowing you're still at the end of it, he might think it will be easy to go back to you whn he leaves his other relationship. If you're trying to move on and forget about him, don't respond and stop talking to him. It's the only way to go. He left you for another girl, cheated on you. He might of found out he made a mistake but he's still playing games with you and holding on to the other girl. This isn't fair, he can't have both. You love him at the moment, but if you keep contact it will only be harder to let him go. He's not thinking about you but just himself. Pretty much everyone here will agree that it's too soon to be friends and the only way to be friends with him again is to be completely over him. NC and trying to move on will be best, it will be very very hard the first few weeks but keep at it.
DevilPenguinPunx Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 Two months ago? That's still kind of early to start being friends. It is obvious that you still have an emotional attachment to him, but you have to understand that this guy lefted you for somebody else. And yet, you want to keep him as a friend? If it were me, that person would never be my friend at all. I believe CrazyPanda is right, he is just dragging you along because he knows you still have an emotional attachment to him and he knows that if things don't work out with his current relationship, he can just go back to you like nothing ever happen. Honestly, you don't need a friend like that. But if you want to be friends, give yourself more time away from him. If he keeps constantly calling you, tell that you do not appreciate him calling/texting/leaving voicemail's so much because that's not what a friend should do; it's abusing the friendship. And talking about a woman that he left you for and the problems he is having is not cool. Honestly, it's messed up. That his problem, let him deal with it. He left you for her, so don't ever brother trying to give him advice on his current relationship. Tell him that you both need time to move on and don't talk until your deep feelings for him are gone or to a point where you can emotional control yourself.
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