jcster Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 So if one of your friends got a promotion at work and you have been laid off for 3 months and still looking for a job, would u want to hear that??? Wouldn't it make sense for that friend to keep that kind of information from you knowing you are having a tough time trying to find a job? So how the hell could you be happy for that friend at that point in time?Because I'm not a selfish, self-absorbed, resentful person - and I care about my friends. I can be envious without being angry, and I actually think what lifts my friends, also lifts me. Crazy, I know, but I take joy in my friends' happiness. There's a difference between being jealous and actually being resentful and angry about a friend's success. One is normal, and the other is not.
miss snoopy Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 If you put it like that, let me tell you, I would definitely want to hear it. I despise people who try to 'spare' my feelings and tippy toe around me. That would make me feel like even more of a loser. Your example is like saying that my friends shouldn't tell me about getting engaged when I'm single, winning the lottery when I'm broke or being pregnant when I'm childless. No, I want to know when things are going great for my friends. Believe it or not, it cheers me up and gives me hope. And I have been dateless surrounded by friends with better luck and the one thing to do at those time is to ask for their tricks and learn from them. Not wallow in self-pity. After all, the universe doesn't revolve around me. Absolutely. I'm at an age now where all my friends are having baby after baby and I can't get enough of the sweet little things (the babies, not their harrassed mothers) I'd love one of my own but I can't imagine reacting the way the OP did to news of yet another friend married and/or pregnant - I get so excited at their wedding plans, ultrasound pics etc. And as Uniqueone said, it's Craiglist, for Pete's sake!
directx Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 DA, Lets see that craigslist post! Or at least show lishy! She is good at that sort of thing!
Lishy Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 Let us see your Craigs list post DA - Let us help you with where you are going wrong! I will get you more dates then you could shake a stick at!
Green eyes Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Is that you are to damn busy to post a picture on "craigs list". Get your ass out there and start finding some dates. You only live once. Why in the hell would you want to be shy, quite and depressed? Sounds like a self esteem issue. If you get turned down. Screw it. Move on to the next one. Dating or "hitting on" someone is like starting your own business. Its about volume. 10 prospects will get you 5 new clients. Now switch that to dating. Get it???
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