wesrjohn Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 I have been seeing this woman who approached me on a dating site. I went to visit her that night, and we hit it off very well. I soon thereafter removed my profile from the dating site and things were going well. One time when I was visiting her at her house, I signed on to my email acct from her computer to check my email. I finished and never thought of it again. About a week later, she was at my place and planned to go home the next day. Her car was broken so I agreed to let her borrow my other car to help her out. I filled the car with gas and sent her on her way. Later I got a call from her that she had broken down. I quickly drove down to rescue her and if needed give her a ride the rest of the way home. After I looked at the car I knew it needed to be towed. This is about when she started acting strangely, wouldnt sit in my truck with me as I waited for the tow truck, and acted like she was mad at me. I told her I would have the truck tow the car to my house and I would take her home. Soon thereafter, a strange vehicle drives up and she goes to the window and talks with the guy driving. I open my door and asked her who it was. She says its her brothers friend and hes going to take her home. Im thinking WTF? She says they will wait until the tow arrives and I said dont worry about it and they speed off. So on my way home i call and leave her a message to call me to let me know she got home ok. got no call. left more messages, no calls, left emails and called for a week, no calls. Finally i get an email saying she was sick and would call later, no call. So finally after more than a week, I get up early and drive to her house. Knock and wait for two hours till her friend shows up to feed the cats. Tells me shes not home and was staying with friends who were having an anniversary party right down near my house! The next day she calls me and says she feels better and that when shes sick, she never calls anyone. Then tells me she spent the week at her sisters. Then asks me to come up and help her clean her garage so her broken car will fit in it and I do. When I arrive, no hug no kiss and cold treatment. The next day I did a bunch of favors for her and finally I had to pin her down to tell me WTF is her problem. She then asks me why i have a webcam and if i send nude pics of myself to women and asks me if im a pervert. Im thinking WTF? Then tells me shes now single and not my girlfriend and I notice she had taken my pic down from her wall and when I ask why, she says shes varnishing the frame. I also notice theres another pic of something in its place. I joked with her about it and she jumped all over me and says f... y... So then after a while I left and she gave me a hug and kiss. The next day I sent her a nice email and got a nice response. The next day I get an email from her saying that the time I checked my email at her house, I forgot to sign off, and as she was looking at my home page she saw pics of me nude and accused me of sending them to women on the dating site and that was why she asked me before about it and if I was a pervert. I felt very violated that she invaded my privacy and I told her why I had those pics of myself. The truth was that my previous GF, who I had no contact with for months, lived far away, and since we didnt see each other very often, we would cam with each other and fool around sending each other pics and stuff. and I told her that she owed me an appology for assuming things without just asking me about it. Thats the total truth and I never got a response from her. Im sure that was the reason for all of the no contact and crappy treatment from her since the car breakdown day. How totally unfair of her! Talk about a lack of communication! After all of the pain she inflicted on me I finally find out what her problem was. I never felt I needed to house keep my personal email acct home page as I would think she would not invade my privacy. I even let her use my computer when she was at my house with confidence that anything she saw she would be an adult about and at least ask me about whatever it was she had a problem with. I later even found out that the guy who picked her up after the car broke down was her so called ex boyfriend! And also when I was at her house, she suddenly closed the blinds while I was fixing something for her taking away the light i needed and then goes outside. I look trough the blinds and its her so called ex boyfriend! He was giving her money. And when she walked back in I looked at her like WTF? She said she didnt want him to see me. And I said why? Its because you still love him huh? Anyhow, how low can someone be to treat me like that? And she used to tell me that she loved me. Thats so f****d U* of her to be like that. Is she crazy or what? Im so hurt and pissed. God I had no idea how screwed a chick could be!
daphne Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 john, I don't think you're seeing this from her perspective. I'm not saying that she has treated you with respect, but maybe she lost it by assuming that the nude photos were more than they were. Honestly, I probably would have felt the same way. It just feels kind of creepy that people are online doing webcam stuff and emailing each other photos in teh middle of the night. She may not believe you when you say it's your ex girlfriend. I understand your situation since you were apart and wanted to keep contact. But it doesn't sound like you've been dating very long so she doesn't really know you and this is a big red flag in her mind. I'm not saying that she's handled things well, I'm just saying she doesn't sound like a psycho.
Author wesrjohn Posted August 20, 2007 Author Posted August 20, 2007 Awww, come on, I need some more input on this please!
jcster Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 I personally think you attached to her too soon. Fixing things in her house, lending her your car - it's obvious that she inspires that in men - just look at her ex boyfriend! I can see why you are angry, but then again, I can see how she might be freaked out too. (and why do you STILL have those naked pics?) Look on the bright side, at least you found out how bad it could get early on. I would just take it as a learning opportunity and move on a bit wiser.
amber1 Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 I don't know, the girl sounds pretty weird to me. She sounds pretty dramatic, nosy, and still has something going on with the ex. I wouldn't get too involved. I commend you though on how nice you have been by helping her out so much and being concerned about her safety.
Author wesrjohn Posted September 9, 2007 Author Posted September 9, 2007 Could really use some more input
Mezzi Posted September 9, 2007 Posted September 9, 2007 Hi wesrjohn, I think this woman is a user-er. She already had wrote you off from seeing the naked pictures i.e. she did not want to continue being involved with you. However, after that she asks you to do all the errands and tasks for her. The woman is bad news. I really cant fault her for thinking the worst about the naked pictures but why ask you to do all these tasks. She seems to be an oppurtunist, come on she's already taking money from her "ex-boyfriend". You seem nice surely you can find a woman who appreciates you.
Cad Rake Posted September 9, 2007 Posted September 9, 2007 Classic chick behavior. For some reason when they get pissed instead of telling the guy something's wrong they just use the silent/cold treatment and wait for him to bring it up. It must be ingrained in their genes. Just gotta battle it out. No easy way through it. If you want to screw around be more careful.
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