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I can't for the life of me find Mr. Right. I'm in need of a serious dating overhaul and I'm hoping I can get some help.

I'm a 29 year old woman. I live alone in an appartment, have a car, decent job, and no kids or drama. I've been told by my friends I'm attractive and have a great sense of humour and kind heart.

I rarely go out as I hate the bar scene, and most of my friends are all in relationships or are married. I have joined a church choir and even took a couple of classes at the local college but the men where either too young or married.

My type of man is humourous, employed, independant, attractive, and has no kids from a previous relationship. Is that limiting myself?

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buzzie2

 

29 is a tough year for most single unttached women. It is about that time many of them make bad choices in the pursuit of Mr Rite. The first thing you need to do is to extend your time frame. Think the next five years instead of the next year. Give thought to what you really want to do in life as a single person.

 

A lot of times if you are limiting yourself in realtionships it is really because you are not ready for it. Maybe you really don`t want a Mr rite in your life right now and that is what you need to come to terms with. It is just uncomfortable because it puts you out of sync with others around you. Everyone seems to be in relationships or married.

 

But, it is not good to be troubled about all this. it doesn`t help a thing. Quite a few single people out there in their thirties actually. Make the best of the freedom of not having a relationship. Do it now because odds are you will find Mr Rite soon enough.

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Thank your lucky stars that you have standards! It's going to take a little while to find the perfect guy for you - don't panic. There's a point in your late twenties where it seems like EVERYONE is getting married - don't let it freak you out. Like Road Rage said - extend your time frame. Also, try not to make this into too much of a priority - just keep living your life and doing what YOU want to do - you'll run into him when the time is right.

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You are not alone. I am the male equivalent. Where does one find the opposite sex equivalent?

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I am dying to find Mrs. Wrong!

 

 

Woohoo!

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I am dying to find Mrs. Wrong!

 

 

Woohoo!

 

 

That should not be too hard.

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I can't for the life of me find Mr. Right. I'm in need of a serious dating overhaul and I'm hoping I can get some help.

I'm a 29 year old woman. I live alone in an appartment, have a car, decent job, and no kids or drama. I've been told by my friends I'm attractive and have a great sense of humour and kind heart.

I rarely go out as I hate the bar scene, and most of my friends are all in relationships or are married. I have joined a church choir and even took a couple of classes at the local college but the men where either too young or married.

My type of man is humourous, employed, independant, attractive, and has no kids from a previous relationship. Is that limiting myself?

Why not drop a hint to your friends about looking for a decent guy? Maybe their SOs might know of single, eligible men who they could introduce you to, within a non-intimidating atmosphere like a BBQ, dinner or cocktails. One of those friend of a friend situations. At least there will be someone trustworthy who can vouch for these guys.

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You can't find Mr Right because there is no such thing, this is delusional thinking. "Overhaul" is right, dating is an equilibrium of offers for acceptence. Two people offer their time with one another, while neither person's time is more valuable than the others. When a person offers low self-esteem it is wholly unattractive. One must bring something to the table that attracts and not repels. Seaching for a "fix" from without instead of from within is a futile exercise. Most think that being in a relationship will serve as a qualifier of self-validation when in truth it does not this only comes from within yourself. Would anyone say that a confident person is UNattractive?

 

Buzzie2,

You make a nice list of the qualities you want from a man yet there is not a complimentary list of qualities you have to offer such a man. This is the mind frame from someone that believes that prince charming will just show up at some point in time and you the damsel will be rescued, this is what is meant by delusional thinking. You must take an active role, not a passive one, in your life. If you want to find out if someone is interested in you ask them out and you will know. What is there to lose?

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I'm single, no kids, no drama, don't smoke or drink, have job and am independent and for life of me I can't find an equivalent girl for me. Go figure. I guess lots more people screwed up their life when they were young and are now paying for it and I don't want to settle or get involved with a woman that has 4 kids and baggage that wouldn't fit on a truck bed.

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Go to your local Marine Base ~ (They're few and far between)

 

You'll have to screen them ~ Hey! We've got our 10% of scumbags, but we screen them out!

 

But, mostly? You'll find guys (and gals too!) that put something bigger and higher than themselves ~ before themselves! Who puts others before themselves! Who have something called integrity, honor, who believe in the American Dream, and who belive in be honest! Who believe in what you're looking for.

 

If not a Marine, then a miltary guy!

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That could have been written exactly word for word about myself as well. I am also 29, 2 feet on the ground, own money, no kids and good personality, easy going and attractive. No matter what I try I can't find a quality guy.

 

I'm not picky, will try dating a little older than I would usually consider and all races. Just want someone who is honest, shows respect, has a sense of humor and have chemistry with.

 

One thing I don't do is make the first move and for some reason the guys who ask me out (then end up dating) end up being jerks in disguise. No idea why I keep attracting them. Have dating guys I have met online, started chatting to on the bus and met out and so on. Doesn't seem to matter.

 

Anyone have any ideas where to meet guys? I just moved somewhere new also which doesn't help so want to meet new people. Guys to date and girls and guys for friends.

 

I do think that there is such think as a Mr.Right or perfect. Perfect for me, but not a perfect human being.

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What makes you think Mr.Right wants Ms. Right?

Maybe opposites attract?

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or may just stop looking...

 

my personal experiences have shown that when you're not looking is when you find someone that really interests you.

 

from Illinois by any chance? ;)

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What makes you think Mr.Right wants Ms. Right?

Maybe opposites attract?

 

Wouldn't an opposite be the ms right for mr right then?

 

Thing is whatever your attracted to and have chemistry with is your "right".

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Yeah, maybe try online dating like match.com or even join some local singles groups (search online for a list of those). You might find someone there. I am 28 and yeah it seems like tons of women my age are getting married too. But I am trying to concentrate on my career right now and be independent. It's true though, the right guy will come along when it is the right time. I've tried to make things happen in past relationships and it never worked out. This is because it wasn't with the right person. Supposedly when you aren't even expecting it is when the right person will come along.

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JOIN THE ARMY!

 

or CIA

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That could have been written exactly word for word about myself as well. I am also 29, 2 feet on the ground, own money, no kids and good personality, easy going and attractive. No matter what I try I can't find a quality guy.

 

I'm not picky, will try dating a little older than I would usually consider and all races. Just want someone who is honest, shows respect, has a sense of humor and have chemistry with.

 

One thing I don't do is make the first move and for some reason the guys who ask me out (then end up dating) end up being jerks in disguise. No idea why I keep attracting them. Have dating guys I have met online, started chatting to on the bus and met out and so on. Doesn't seem to matter.

 

Anyone have any ideas where to meet guys? I just moved somewhere new also which doesn't help so want to meet new people. Guys to date and girls and guys for friends.

 

I find it interesting that both men and women who seem to have their sh** together can find anyone of the opposite sex for which the same is true. Somethings not adding up.

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Wouldn't an opposite be the ms right for mr right then?

 

Thing is whatever your attracted to and have chemistry with is your "right".

did you mean "you're"?

 

If the second sentence is true then I, like a lot of others, have more than one "ms right". As a guy, this is a pragmatic viewpoint. I believe women base their "mr. right" with an idealistic viewpoint.

This begs the question, if "mr. right" exists then what ideal is he specifically "right" for fulfilling to the exclusion of all others?

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I find it interesting that both men and women who seem to have their sh** together can find anyone of the opposite sex for which the same is true. Somethings not adding up.

 

Not meeting each other I guess.

 

I have tried internet dating and actually not looking. I would like to find someone but not looking for him (searching sites and so on). Though guys that seem great at first but is really a jerk always find me.

 

:mad:

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Not meeting each other I guess.

 

I have tried internet dating and actually not looking. I would like to find someone but not looking for him (searching sites and so on). Though guys that seem great at first but is really a jerk always find me.

 

:mad:

 

I guess I think I am allright though How do I know if a woman thinks I am a jerk? Maybe someone's jerk is someone else's knight in shinning armour.

 

It could be also the bad boy syndrome, the jerks keep your the emotions on edge and are more attractive in that way.

 

Probably the non-jerks get tired of competing with the jerks and the jerks get all the women by default.

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I always find the best girls when I am not even looking and not expecting it.

 

When you are looking, nothing happens.

 

Can't explain it.

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I always find the best girls when I am not even looking and not expecting it.

 

When you are looking, nothing happens.

 

Can't explain it.

 

The only relationship I had and lasted a month happened after I stopped looking. The only problem is believing it will happen while not caring whether it will happen.

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It's frustrating reading these posts because you ladies sound like the kind of people I would like to meet (for whatever that's worth). The natural problem with it is that "quality people" and "easy places to meet people" are not really on the same field. The places that make it easy to meet people do not often attract quality people and vice versa.

 

Don't let it get you down. Life ebbs and flows and you're in a funk. They're out there. I'll bet you look right through one at leas twice a day. Maybe they're the ones that don't scream out for attention or aren't acting stupid and they just go unnoticed.

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The harder you look, the less likely you'll find someone because you're set on a list of attributes. It happens when you just want to be left alone...

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