Author werty Posted September 15, 2007 Author Posted September 15, 2007 yeah, i get the idea. im just glad LS is here. i would have wasted years of my life if i havent read someone else's situation here like mine... and thank you for you frannie, and others who helped people like us...
frannie Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 [/b] But why is your friend throwing his life away? You and he seem to be in very similar dead end relationships but you don't consider you are throwing your life away. Oh hello. Have you 'outed' me to MM's W yet..? No..? Don't you think she deserves to know..? Meanwhile, back in the real world. My friend is wasting his life because he's sick, waiting, hoping she'll change her mind and join him in the future he wants for her. Hoping she'll realise what a waste of her passion and love it is living with her husband and children... and every day is a day she could spend with him in a beautiful future, if only she'd realise she is worth more than the marriage she feels is her 'duty'. Personally, I don't feel any of that. I don't feel like 'rescuing' my MM from his marriage. If he wants or needs to be there for his own reasons, so be it. I see him because it is what I want to do, whether or not everything goes the way he says it will. I don't have my life 'on hold' for the sake of someone else's life choices. IF I wanted to be out of it, out of it I would be. Why do you ask..?
overandout Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 Hi Frannie, I ask because I still think that you want your mm to leave his marriage. Your earlier post on another thread suggests you are not happy. Please don't pretend that you do not think about what you mm is up to right now at home and how you wished he was with you. I would, if I loved him as you clearly do. He is sleeping with another woman and if that doesn't trouble you then I doubt you are as involved as you say you are. It used to irritate and grate on me although I tried not to dwell on it. He told you months ago that he wasn't leaving his marriage and was assuming that you would end the affair. He has already made his choice. He is staying married and you will have a secret life with him. You are destined to be with him on a part time basis for a long time. I doubt you are actively looking for a single man, although obviously I don't know. You and your friend do not have a full on relationship with your OP so in a way you are both throwing your lives away as you both wish things were different.
Author werty Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 OMG. jst now, i had a meeting with my boss. one topic was about her. he heard from her in-law(also one of my attendant) that she was pregnant. my boss talked to her to confirm it and she told him that she was pregnant. result just came out. due to this, she may leave work anytime soon but she said she wont quit work.my boss dont want her to leave too. last week when i had my last conversation with her,when she talked that she would resign.she also said something like one above. but what she said that she was angry and want to leave work because this sister-in-law of hers talked of the issue ahead of her when it was not true. she said that time that it was not true that she was pregnant and actually it was her mens week. i just dont know if this was really true or not. coz 2 weeks ago, i let her did a PT coz i wanted to know that it was not because she may be pregnant thats why she got confused again about us. tests of 2 pcs of PT turned out negative.i dont know if this was a way for me to talk and actually see her. but i really wanted to know if she really is preggy, as her boss somehow i have to know. do u think this is a way for me to get to talk to her?confirming to our boss that she was pregnant to coincide with her wanting to resign? i want to go see her and confirm it, and/or maybe do the actual test myself..
TogetherForever Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 Werty, Who's baby is she pregnant with if she is infact pregnant? Yours? TF
Author werty Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 if she is, its positively not mine.... but being her BOSS at work, i just have to know. coz her being pregnant may hinder her to work, not to mention the breakup we currently have and the NC that i have been doin so far...
Author werty Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 nevermind, its confirmed shes preggy. i just wanted her to voluntarily leave work, and give me the space to move on. being where she is right not, and possibly have the chance to see her, or even to get to talk to her even if its business issues, doesnt really help me. besides, if she really still has some decency in herself, all these things she has done to me, is reason enough for her to leave,if she stil has some respect to me...
frannie Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Hey werty, I just wanted to say... I hope you're not taking all this too hard... if she is pregant and it seems like she is, and it can't be yours... I just want you to know... you can have a life without her you know. ... best of luck werty whatever you're doing x
Author werty Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 ya. but i wanted her to leave, at least its wat im expecting her to do after all she has done to me, betrayal,unloyal,unloved, used etc etc. well i really want her to leave,and ask for my space so i can work better in this environment.coz knowing shes still there, and theres a chance that we will talk,even if its business purposes ,its not gona help me and my process of moving on... if she still has the right mind, i think leaving completely is what she really suppose to do
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