samQ2005 Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Let me start of by saying that nobody in born unfriendly. Certain things in life as we grow up change the way we perceive people. As we grow older through school and college we meet new people, some you may click with and some you don't. It is when those friends your grew up with that you thought you can trust become dishonest and deceitful that you start losing faith. You lose all sense of trust and assurance. I am not the type of person that makes rash judgements, I know everyone is different and I am not talking after one bad experience. I now have no g/f or friends. Infact it has been years since i had a friend. I don't want to sound arrogant or self applauding but I am intelligent, and good looking with a good job, however I do find it difficult opening up to people. I feel everytime I talk to someone that I have to becareful in every word I say and that I must pretend to be someone I'm not. It is always discomforting to not be able express my true feelings to someone, as I fear rejection more than anything. People do say to go out, meet people and socialise... but these things are not straightfoward. This is more than just self confidence. Yes many people in the world have bigger problems and I am grateful for what I have but everyone dreams of a person they can love and trust. I just wish I can meet that someone, i really wish a girl talks to me sometimes because I am not strong enough yet to do so. I wish... I hope fortunes change for me and for many of you who feel the same. Maybe Life is trying to teach me something by making me stronger in the long term. I live in hope... Loneliness can be oh-so painful. goodnight.
JCD Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 Everyone feels little self-conscious when talking with strangers. That's normal. Once you get to know someone better then some of your personality will come out and either you'll become better friends or not. Not everyone will like you and that's life. Concentrate on those that like you. I realized that rejection is going to happen no matter what and how you handle it determines whether you're able to go on or not. When I was inexperienced and I got rejected I became offended and wouldn't talk to the girl. Now, I don't care and if she wants to be friends I'm ok with that. People say that dating is a numbers game, the more girls you'll talk to the better chance you'll have of finding one. So talk to lots of women. Anyways, know who you are and the rest will follow.
Yamaha Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 Your issues are not in trusting/opening up but in rejection. Some girl as hurt you in the past so now you just do not want to take the chance to be rejected again. You take things way to personally. As you stated it makes for a very lonely existence and you have a choice to make, continue in the safe life you have created for yourself or take a chance and step outside of your comfort zone. You are missing out on knowing many wonderful people and them having a chance to know you. Rejection is not a prison sentence but a learning one. You have spent enough time in solitary confinement so open your heart and be a friend/lover.
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