rrobbie Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 hi i was seeing a girl (friends with benifits) we where seeing each other for 6 months and ended 2 months ago still as friends i saw her reciently and now i want her im am sure she wanted more when we where dating but i didnt want to scare her off if i was wrong she still wants to hang out even cooks dinners but no cuddles she says shes been dating someone else but not serious but i am confused we chat online all day still i tolder her i cant be friends and will delete all her contact details/ phone numbers etc and she got upset she says we can hang out if i dont pursue her i want to woo her back though what to do is she testing me
yergawd Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 IMO, you have three choices 1. Be completely honest with your feeling about her and see if she would be willing to date you (I would add exclusive but your choice) 2. Be her buddy and suffer hoping one day she will want more 3. Say you can't stand being arond her without being with her and walk away --sad music playing from the old Hulk tv show when Banner hitchhikes away alone.
PoshPrincess Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 hi i was seeing a girl (friends with benifits) we where seeing each other for 6 months and ended 2 months ago still as friends i saw her reciently and now i want her im am sure she wanted more when we where dating but i didnt want to scare her off if i was wrong she still wants to hang out even cooks dinners but no cuddles she says shes been dating someone else but not serious but i am confused we chat online all day still i tolder her i cant be friends and will delete all her contact details/ phone numbers etc and she got upset she says we can hang out if i dont pursue her i want to woo her back though what to do is she testing me Sorry Robbie, but it sounds as if she's been 100% honest with you and you're going to have to accept that, unless she changes her mind and decides she wants more, than this is all you will ever be. By all means stay friends with her in the hope that something might progress but you could be doing yourself more harm than good by hanging on for her. It won't be good for your mental well-being to be pinning all your hopes on this girl. You have to think of yourself first and foremost. I am speaking from experience here, on both sides. I know from being in your friend's position that FWB was what I was more than happy with, but the guy I was seeing wanted more and couldn't deal with it and therefore ended our friendship. It's a shame as we were good friends but I can understand why he made that decision. I also know from being in your position that it's very unhealthy hanging round for someone who probably isn't going to be with you. I drove myself insane for months on end. I have finally moved on but I still think of this guy far too much than is good for me. Don't go down the same road unless you think you can hack it!
onmyown2 Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Robbie~ Hang in there. She may secretly be hiding behind her hurt past with you. Do not walk away from her friendship. If things go right and her wall comes down. You'll have her back. Just make sure everything she ask if you want to come along DO IT! MAKE TIME! Cancel your plans! even if she has another guy envolved. But remember not getting what you want only makes you learn to be patient for what life really has to offer.
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