Mistaken Identity Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 I'm attracted to my new mailman. I've only been fortunate enough to have run into him at my mailbox twice. We had a nice, brief conversation both times. He's not gorgeous, but he's really nice. I don't see a wedding ring. Of course that doesn't mean he isn't married. Any ideas how to strike up a conversation with him? I don't want him to think I just rush out to the mailbox when he shows up, either. So any suggestions for how to makle that look coincidental? I'm over 45, and I think he's probably in his fifties--if that matters at all. Thanks!
melodymatters Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Gee, I don't have any inspired ideas, but I think It's has the possibilities of a great " meet cute" story ! Nothing ventured nothing gained right ? pretend your waiting for an important check, and then just strike up a conversation, about the neighborhood, maybe ! As a Realtor, I always quiz mailmen, and they often volunteer things like ' My wife and I bought over here etc etc" Good luck and keep us informed, I have a good feeling about this !
whichwayisup Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Baked goods. Give him some! If it's a hot day, give him a bottle of water. If it's a coolish day, make him a cup of coffee. (or have one brewed, ready to go.) You'll know soon enough if he is interested, and if/when he shows you some interest, come right out and ask him if he is married or in a relationship. (And, let's hope he doesn't lie!) Report back to us!
Author Mistaken Identity Posted August 18, 2007 Author Posted August 18, 2007 Thanks to you both for your encouraging words. I saw him today. He said hello, and my mouth was full of RC Cola, so I just waved. What a dork I am! I should've swallowed real fast and said, "Hi, how are you?" Anyway, I've thought of having someone send me a registered letter so he would have to bring it up to the door and I could sign for it and get a good close-up of that ring finger. Yesterday, I wrote "No longer at this address" on a bill addressed to my ex. So, I'm trying to put out the hint.
Love&Light Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 HA HA! I thought I could have been the only surviving person to have the hots for their mailman! Mine is absolutely adorable...married, but adorable. We talk most of the time and whenever I get a package, even if it will fit in the mailbox, he rings the bell so he can hand it to me. He even literally rings twice and I always joke about that. You are lucky that your MM doesn't have a ring at least. opening for an option to pursue. If you have to mail a package, print the label online and request carrier pickup, that way it will give you ample opportunity to have a quick chat! Love shows in the oddest places sometimes
Author Mistaken Identity Posted August 18, 2007 Author Posted August 18, 2007 Love&Light, "The Postman Always Rings Twice." That's funny! There's also a cute mailman-related short story by Alice Munro called, "How I Met My Husband." It's about a girl who waits at the mailbox every day for a letter from an ex-boyfriend. The mailman misinterprets her waiting as flirting and asks her out. In your case, your mailman seems interested in you in some form or another. If I present enough opportunities for conversation and he doesn't go for it, I guess I'll have to take the hint. Today I plan to do yard work in the front yard. I'm definitely going to say something to him!
SoHotZanzibar Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Well, I have a success story. My neighbor and the mailman here hooked up. I wasn't around to see how it happened, but the mailman is in his driveway a few times a week.
Trialbyfire Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Love&Light, "The Postman Always Rings Twice." That's funny! There's also a cute mailman-related short story by Alice Munro called, "How I Met My Husband." It's about a girl who waits at the mailbox every day for a letter from an ex-boyfriend. The mailman misinterprets her waiting as flirting and asks her out. In your case, your mailman seems interested in you in some form or another. If I present enough opportunities for conversation and he doesn't go for it, I guess I'll have to take the hint. Today I plan to do yard work in the front yard. I'm definitely going to say something to him! Haha..mailmen are no different than any other guy. Your idea of yardwork is a great idea. Strike up a conversation and then say something like "Boy, it's hot out and I'm dying of thirst. I'm going to get a lemonade/water/nonalcoholic beverage...want one?". If he refuses, you've got your answer. Good luck.
lindya Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 My neighbor and the mailman here hooked up. I wasn't around to see how it happened, but the mailman is in his driveway a few times a week. That seems like the perfect lead-in for one of our regular posters' ubiquitous anal sex jokes.
Author Mistaken Identity Posted August 18, 2007 Author Posted August 18, 2007 Wow, TBF, I don't know if I have the nerve to just come out and invite him in. Anyway, I missed him today. I was in the house putting on mascara--you know, to do yard work--and he must have come by then. Maybe I should just leave a note in the mailbox. Get it over with. Is that too psychotic?
Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 Ah, I see how my suggestion could easily be misconstrued as being more forward than intended. I should have couched it in the way that made it seem less...inviting... "If you're thirsty, have a seat (point to front steps) and I'll get us both some lemonade".
SoHotZanzibar Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 That seems like the perfect lead-in for one of our regular posters' ubiquitous anal sex jokes. Well, it's true! I am not one to embellish or fib! Yes, they are both men.
Fun2BMe Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 Last year I met a postal worker at the post office who asked for my number and pursued me for a long time but I couldn't get myself to date a postal worker. Recently I moved to a new place and was naturally curious as to how my new mailman looks like, so when I heard the mail being placed in the mailbox, I took a peek from the window and saw he was really cute. The next day I had a plan that when I heard him I would run out with mail to send out. I was in a lingerie like pink satin nightie (he comes around 10am) with my boobs hanging out lol and ran out to give him a handful of mail, mostly bills that I wouldn't have mailed out for another week. I asked if I could give these to him, he said something like sure and we made small talk. Then two days later he rang my door to give me some packages, and now I have an excuse to do a lot of online shopping so he delivers packages to me lol. I wouldn't be interested in taking it further than flirting but it's fun considering how cute he is! So to the OP pretend you forgot to put your outgoing mail out and run out to give it to him and make small talk or send a letter to somewhere overseas so you can ask him if he knows how much the postage is or something like that.
Storyrider Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 Well, it's true! I am not one to embellish or fib! Yes, they are both men. It won't be the same, but I'll make a stab at it. Ahem. So... Where did he put his package? Was it a special delivery into his back door slot?
SoHotZanzibar Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 Sounds like a good time to be a mailman, especially in fun2beme's neighborhood!
mental_traveller Posted August 19, 2007 Posted August 19, 2007 Yesterday, I wrote "No longer at this address" on a bill addressed to my ex. So, I'm trying to put out the hint. Men don't even notice hints, let alone follow up on them. Think of your idea of being ultra-direct, do that, and he might just notice & ask you out. Or just ask if he knows a good restaurant in town, then say you don't really want to go alone how about he comes with you?
Trimmer Posted August 20, 2007 Posted August 20, 2007 It won't be the same, but I'll make a stab at it. Ahem. So... Where did he put his package? Was it a special delivery into his back door slot? Actually, I think you did better with the "make a stab at it" line...
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