DateAnalyzer Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 The Guy who never talks on the phone that long and always saying he is headed out? So if it appears a guy is always busy and in demand does that make you want him more? I know for me it's different because I felt myself losing interest when this girl only talked to me for 15-20 min verytime we talked. I just felt like it was hard for me to connect with her and that's why i decided not to go on the date because i just felt I didn;t know her. Maybe it's different for women
jcster Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 15-20 minutes is a long time to talk on the phone, in my opinion. What can you possibly say in more time than that?
Touche Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 No, it wouldn't and didn't make me want a guy more. In fact, just the opposite. I always wanted to know, through the guy's actions, that he was interested. Otherwise, I lost interest.
sofakingmad Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 sounds like just another excuse not to go out with someone.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 No, it wouldn't and didn't make me want a guy more. In fact, just the opposite. I always wanted to know, through the guy's actions, that he was interested. Otherwise, I lost interest. The best time for me to chat on the phone really is after 11pm
Touche Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 The best time for me to chat on the phone really is after 11pm Huh? What's that got to do with what I said and your topic?
jcster Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 So you call women in the middle of the night and then get upset when they only talk to you for 15 or 20 minutes? Personally, my phone gets turned off at 9.
sofakingmad Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 i'm a night owl but i call before 9 usually.
popey Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 I just am not a fan of talking on the phone, so bevity in this area would not affect me. If, however his behavior made me to feel though he could take me or leave me- so to speak. I'd be turned off.
StayClose Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 When in the initial "get to know you" stage of a releationship, I would sometimes have phone conversations lasting hours. I felt that it helped build a connection. But the dating gurus usally advise keeping phone calls short: just long enough to set a date % time for the next date. I dunno.
coffee_addict Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 my boyfriend calls me after work at sometimes, from any time between 10-12am, and is usually on the phone for an hour or more. i find this sooooooo boring lol, when i want 2 be going to bed and im really tired, and especially when useful or interesting information fills up maybe 5-10 mins, and the rest is silence, or just random chatter and trying to force conversation. personally i would keep phonecalls short lol, im not saying go 'yeah sorry im too busy to talk to you gotta dash' - coz thats not on really lol. but dont sit in silence because my god it does your head in lol.
norajane Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 When in the initial "get to know you" stage of a releationship, I would sometimes have phone conversations lasting hours. I felt that it helped build a connection. But the dating gurus usally advise keeping phone calls short: just long enough to set a date % time for the next date. I dunno. The dating gurus say that because it's more fun to talk for hours when you're laughing into each others' eyes on a date. If you do all your talking on the phone, then you're all talked out by the time you go out and have little left to talk about. Save it for the date. Once you are a couple, you can talk however much you want. But then you're seeing each other regularly, so there really isn't much point in spending hours on the phone.
Krytellan Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 15-20 minutes is a long time to talk on the phone, in my opinion. What can you possibly say in more time than that? I usually get 30 minutes for $39.95. At the 15-20 minute mark, I'm usually just getting warmed up
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 That in and of itself? No. It won't make me want him more. It will annoy the hell out of me, and make me want him less. Don't get me wrong - I'm not a phone person, and don't like really long conversations, but if a guy is always hot to get off the phone, and always has somewhere he needs to be so badly that he blows me off over the phone, then screw him. I'll find someone else who isn't so "busy".
Arizona100 Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 No, not at all. It doesn't make me want a man more. I like when the person shows interest in what I am, without feeling at a job interview of course.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted August 18, 2007 Author Posted August 18, 2007 Why do you prefer to talk after 11pm? Because I like to set time aside for Sports and the Internet
JamesM Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 The Guy who never talks on the phone that long and always saying he is headed out? So if it appears a guy is always busy and in demand does that make you want him more? I am not a woman, but from my experiences, women like men who will listen to them. If a man never has time for her, she feels that everything else in his life is more important than her. If a particular woman bores you, then move on. If all women bore you, then learn communication skills. I know that when a woman interested me, I could sit and listen to her for hours. And yes, I could be on the phone for hours. Just another POV.
chill chic Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Why do you prefer to talk after 11pm? because probably by that time he's drunk, which probably makes him more comfortable calling girls I've heard it before...that's all
chill chic Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Because I like to set time aside for Sports and the Internet oh he's right...he posted that at 10:43 pm
jcster Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 So a woman that you are interested in comes in last after sports and the internet? Yikes! Good luck with that! (you're going to need it)
Trialbyfire Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 If a guy's in a hurry, sayonara, especially at the beginning.
Woggle Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 It is because he has other more important things in his life than her and that drives women insane. When a woman is not number one priority and she knows it she makes it her mission to get her man of interest to put her as number one and then when he does she loses interest and dumps him. If a man is always on the phone and in demand he projects an image of independence and women are attracted to that.
Citizen Erased Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 It is because he has other more important things in his life than her and that drives women insane. When a woman is not number one priority and she knows it she makes it her mission to get her man of interest to put her as number one and then when he does she loses interest and dumps him. If a man is always on the phone and in demand he projects an image of independence and women are attracted to that. When you grow a vagina we will believe you.
Woggle Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 When you grow a vagina we will believe you. I have witnessed enough to know how it is. Women want men to love them but women don't love men. When women get a man to love them they have won the game and they move on to the next victim.
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