hotgurl Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 :laugh: Oh, another thing that hd a big impact on how I'm feeling, I took two fairly hard classes, I had the finals yesterday, studied my butt off. He didn't even call/text from work to say "how did it go?" When I mentioned it to him he said he was so busy all day, I don't believe he didn't have 20 seconds to text me. aww I sorry allina it is nice to be thought of. maybe you could talke to him. Also you guys can carve out some time to reconnect. Even if it is just talking over dinner at home once a week etc... My BF a lot of time will sit besides me with I am getting ready for bed and just chat with me (we have different sleeps schedules sometimes) Or we chat in the living room over a glass of wine.. It helps to have a room with no TV so the temptation to turn it on isn't there. We also try to schedule a date once a week. even if it is just to go for a walk together. Have you talked to him about this?
Author allina Posted August 18, 2007 Author Posted August 18, 2007 Have you talked to him about this? I'm going to talk with him tonight . I just need him to listen and to care. Maybe I was a fool to look at all the bullsh*t that comes in relationships and to think I was immune and that this relationship would always feel perfect. I think I'm angry at him because I'm afraid he won't care and I'll have to walk. Though it hasn't been a super long relationship we did build a life together, we have(had?) an intention to marry within the next couple of years. It's difficult to feel like this may all fall apart, there would be so many pieces for me to put together again. What happens if i address all these issues and he doesn't get it, says he does but nothing changes? I know I can be drastic but I can't just let this go. None the less, there are more important issues here today than me.
Star Gazer Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Maybe I was a fool to look at all the bullsh*t that comes in relationships and to think I was immune and that this relationship would always feel perfect. I think I'm angry at him because I'm afraid he won't care and I'll have to walk. Though it hasn't been a super long relationship we did build a life together, we have(had?) an intention to marry within the next couple of years. It's difficult to feel like this may all fall apart, there would be so many pieces for me to put together again. What happens if i address all these issues and he doesn't get it, says he does but nothing changes? I know I can be drastic but I can't just let this go. Sounds like your doubts are a whole bunch of "what if?"s. Life is made up of way more than "if." How'd the talk go?
Author allina Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 How'd the talk go? So I think I got way ahead of myself with getting this upset. He wasn't 100% of what I wanted for a short time and I got this attitude like "whatever, I don't need this, I can bail." We talked when he got home, he was surprised but understanding. Everything is much better now, we had a great weekend. Hopefully this was just a small hurdle that I made in to something huge and we will continue being happy.
Author allina Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 Just do the boob thing next time. :laugh: But how does that help ME? Will the boob thing help me get past the "almost year and a half" mark, because I've never had a relationship last longer than that. If so I may try it.
tanbark813 Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Will the boob thing help me get past the "almost year and a half" mark, because I've never had a relationship last longer than that. If so I may try it. Well it certainly can't hurt.
Pyro Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 So I think I got way ahead of myself with getting this upset. He wasn't 100% of what I wanted for a short time and I got this attitude like "whatever, I don't need this, I can bail." We talked when he got home, he was surprised but understanding. Everything is much better now, we had a great weekend. Hopefully this was just a small hurdle that I made in to something huge and we will continue being happy. Thats great news. Glad that it worked out.
Author allina Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 Thats great news. Glad that it worked out. Thanks Rid. I think I just need to get it in my head that it is possible to work out disagreements and disappointments.
Pyro Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Thanks Rid. I think I just need to get it in my head that it is possible to work out disagreements and disappointments. That is so crazy that you said that you have never made it past the 1.5 year mark. I was the same way until my current relationship.
Author allina Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 That is so crazy that you said that you have never made it past the 1.5 year mark. I was the same way until my current relationship. It like all my ltrs faded at around 9 months- 1 year and I didn't see the point anymore. The only exception is the guy I dated for 4 months before my current relationship, he broke up with me.
Pyro Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 It like all my ltrs faded at around 9 months- 1 year and I didn't see the point anymore. The only exception is the guy I dated for 4 months before my current relationship, he broke up with me. I remember that I had to fight just to get my relationships to the one year mark, figuratively speaking of course. I think that it will say alot if you make it past the 1.5 year mark.
Author allina Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 I think that it will say alot if you make it past the 1.5 year mark. How come? What changes after 1.5 year mark?
Pyro Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 How come? What changes after 1.5 year mark? Just the fact that you beat your old record. To me it felt like a big accomplishment.
Author allina Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 Just the fact that you beat your old record. To me it felt like a big accomplishment. Ah, well congrats :lmao:
Pyro Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 Ah, well congrats :lmao: Almost 4 months late, but thank you.
Author allina Posted August 21, 2007 Author Posted August 21, 2007 Almost 4 months late, but thank you. So almost 2 years! I'd like to congratulate you on that then, early
Pyro Posted August 21, 2007 Posted August 21, 2007 So almost 2 years! I'd like to congratulate you on that then, early This coming November. You have redeemed yourself.
headinclouds Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Hey, I clicked on this thread because I have had periods of doubt with my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and to be honest, a 2-3 week slump is so normal in relationships. I can look back and tell you the very weeks my bf and I were in slumps. Then afterwards it becomes clear as to the reasons why (starting a new job, dreading going to work in the morning) and it was never about the other person... it was always something outside of the relationship that put my bf in a slouchy non-caring mood. It's great when they finally snap out of it. If it never rains, how do you enjoy the sunshine?
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