sofakingmad Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 it makes one realize that alcohol is indeed a dangerous thing...i was havin such a good time last night though and not thinkin about any man at all but then my friend asks "whatever happened to that guy" and he got stuck in my mind....and after a few more drinks i felt like i could take on the world (stupid because no one can take on the world)....and then i found myself leaving those stupid (stupid) messages....i really didnt have to i meet so many people and have so many things going for me at the moment...but men keep leavin me....i need to find out why but they never tell!! that sucks. women leave men too. i've had several recently that just disappear and leave for no reason. i wine them dine them hold the door for them been called genuine, a true gentleman BUT i never hear from them again. i think part of it is because they're from match.com and they want to keep looking in case mr. perfect comes along. but he never will...
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 women who think appearance is a priority to men..are soo wrong!! i used to think that and have spent time and time perfecting myself...and while i have no problem gettin them the keepin part is where i have problems....being hot/ beautiful is not enough.... you need way more than good looks to get-n-keep a man...
Arizona100 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Thats a good strategy until he decides to act like he doesnt know who you are! Huh? I'm sorry do I know you? I'm really not sure who you are or what you apologizing for? You've never heard of a guy spitting some game? Like a player? Nope! lol What I know is how he acts when he is NOT drunk lol and that's awesome
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 Thats a good strategy until he decides to act like he doesnt know who you are! Huh? I'm sorry do I know you? I'm really not sure who you are or what you apologizing for? You've never heard of a guy spitting some game? Like a player? I never knew!! but if he dares...i will give a good kick in the sack and say "does that refresh your memory?" i got too much blood in my veins!!
Arizona100 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 women who think appearance is a priority to men..are soo wrong!! i used to think that and have spent time and time perfecting myself...and while i have no problem gettin them the keepin part is where i have problems....being hot/ beautiful is not enough.... you need way more than good looks to get-n-keep a man... Oh yeah totally And no, dont toss your purse at him lol bad idea
Cobra_X30 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 i meet so many people and have so many things going for me at the moment...but men keep leavin me....i need to find out why but they never tell!! Hey didnt I explain this one yesterday?
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 that sucks. women leave men too. i've had several recently that just disappear and leave for no reason. i wine them dine them hold the door for them been called genuine, a true gentleman BUT i never hear from them again. i think part of it is because they're from match.com and they want to keep looking in case mr. perfect comes along. but he never will... the problem is that a lot of women hold on to the fantasy of a mr.right I guess all those chick flicks and fairy tales get into their heads...nonetheless they will pass on a good man just to keep lookin for someone that later on they learn will never find...i think both men and women have to make a lot of compromises to stay together...you can make it work or go for something else....dating is the most confusing and stressful business one ever does!!
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 Hey didnt I explain this one yesterday? oh cobra you're soo full of wisdom:) care to elaborate again?
sofakingmad Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 the problem is that a lot of women hold on to the fantasy of a mr.right I guess all those chick flicks and fairy tales get into their heads...nonetheless they will pass on a good man just to keep lookin for someone that later on they learn will never find...i think both men and women have to make a lot of compromises to stay together...you can make it work or go for something else....dating is the most confusing and stressful business one ever does!! yep.
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 Oh yeah totally And no, dont toss your purse at him lol bad idea very tempting though
Cobra_X30 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 I never knew!! but if he dares...i will give a good kick in the sack and say "does that refresh your memory?" i got too much blood in my veins!! LOL... I actually did that in college. I didnt get kicked in the nuts, but I should have realized she was friends with the whole bloody cheer squad! Ugghhh... Made my life suck for a couple months!
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 LOL... I actually did that in college. I didnt get kicked in the nuts, but I should have realized she was friends with the whole bloody cheer squad! Ugghhh... Made my life suck for a couple months! and I thought you were one of the good ones..lol
Cobra_X30 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 oh cobra you're soo full of wisdom:) care to elaborate again? Ha! If you cant dazzle them with your brilliance baffle'em with your Bulls***! Its all in how you play the game! ... If what your doing doesnt work, change the image you project. Your a multifaceted person... show them a different side of you!
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 thats a good idea cobra...but it will take some time before i can manage it right..i'm always all-smiles and so nice...i'm always on time for everything..i am always okay with changing plans...i m a terrible liar..always on my best behavior...and when i am really into someone i am willin to move heaven and earth just to see him...which is a very stupid thing to do...i find myself changing my whole schedule around just to make time to be with him....i guess i know what i do wrong but still...i can say with confidence that i always try to be myself above all things.....i like being real and straight to the point...i hate those silly mind games...it's a waste of time and childish...
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 but i really want to be with someone for real...and have a real meaningful relationship..at the end of the day would be nice to have someone to come home to...so i am gonna start workin on being more of a "bad girl"...so what do men really want?
Cobra_X30 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 i find myself changing my whole schedule around just to make time to be with him....i guess i know what i do wrong but still...i can say with confidence that i always try to be myself above all things.....i like being real and straight to the point...i hate those silly mind games...it's a waste of time and childish... Open and available kitty, is the same person as exciting and mysterious kitty! Yup... Its all you! You are chalked full of wonderful traits! You get to pick which ones to display and when. Mind games? Perhaps! But its just the way people interact. Especially in the getting to know you phase. Oh, BTW... I am one of the good ones, perhaps the best!
Cobra_X30 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 but i really want to be with someone for real...and have a real meaningful relationship..at the end of the day would be nice to have someone to come home to...so i am gonna start workin on being more of a "bad girl"...so what do men really want? A challenge! You dont have to be bad. Seriously, we men are natural hunters! . See, treat yourself like gold... Then I will treat you like gold also. We appreciate those things we put hard work into... it makes them more special.
Arizona100 Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 but i really want to be with someone for real...and have a real meaningful relationship..at the end of the day would be nice to have someone to come home to...so i am gonna start workin on being more of a "bad girl"...so what do men really want? It is obviously not in your nature to be a "bad girl" and it won't make your happier. Just take care of yourself. See your friends, find activities. And when he asks you if you can go on a date that one day where you are supposed to see your friends, just reply that no you can't that day because you're going out. Don't change your plans! You won't get rejected for having a personal life. But you will get rejected for appearing too needy and available. I would work on that first, being happy with myself. Then you will find someone waiting for you at home. Don't give the impression that you can't do anything alone or depend on someone else to be happy. In one word, be yourself, don't try to please those men all the time. I have a question, do you try to please everybody in general or just the guy that you date?
Arizona100 Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Oh, BTW... I am one of the good ones, perhaps the best! Give me a break, I remember your post! haha You're not that bad .. we'll say
chill chic Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 ...so i am gonna start workin on being more of a "bad girl"...so what do men really want? uhh...no you don't, it's not all that great.
jcster Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 those lower inhibitions just make it easier to spit some game!Just don't spit it in their eye - they could go blind! I devised a good method of avoiding the drunk dial (of which I have been guilty many times). After the name of every guy that I was in danger of drunk dialing I put the words "are you sure?" It was enough to make me think, and luckily I avoided making a total ass of myself.
amber1 Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Thankfully I have never drunk dialed a guy. Once I was drunk dialed by a guy I used to date (who I liked A LOT, loved actually). He called me at 4 am one morning and left a message like "I know it's late...wanted to see what you are up to.." His speech was slurred. I called him back the next day but he didn't answer. I left a message and he never called me back. He got my hopes up for nothing! Anyway, lots of people do the drunk dial. If you do run into him I wouldn't even mention the drunk dial at all. Just say cheerfully "hi, how are you?" in passing and act care-free, confident, and like it never happened. Then maybe your drunk dial won't seem like such a big deal.
SadandConfusedWA Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 I just delete numbers of all men that have screwed me over...
BlueEyedSarah Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Hey we've all done that. My ex bf climbed at my balcony once, 2am in the morning. He was drunk. And he was naked Oh goodness, thanks for the laugh .
Author kitty99b Posted August 18, 2007 Author Posted August 18, 2007 It is obviously not in your nature to be a "bad girl" and it won't make your happier. Just take care of yourself. See your friends, find activities. And when he asks you if you can go on a date that one day where you are supposed to see your friends, just reply that no you can't that day because you're going out. Don't change your plans! You won't get rejected for having a personal life. But you will get rejected for appearing too needy and available. I would work on that first, being happy with myself. Then you will find someone waiting for you at home. Don't give the impression that you can't do anything alone or depend on someone else to be happy. In one word, be yourself, don't try to please those men all the time. I have a question, do you try to please everybody in general or just the guy that you date? I know it's impossible to please everybody...but I find myself trying to make everybody happy all the time...it's stressful
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