kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Last night after one too many drinks I (for some unknown reason) called up this guy, who stopped seeing me a couple of weeks ago ( we only dated briefly)...and when he didn't pick up (at one in the morning what a surprise) I left a message and not thinking it was enough I called back and left a second... saying what a terrible mistake he had made because we had such a great thing, how he was a jerk and how he should come to his senses and give us another shot, how I shouldnt be callin him but refused to let him go without knowing some truths...I can't help but feel soo terrible because even though I kinda meant my words I just can't believe I drunk dialed him....how bad can this be?..will he be able to notice how drunk I was?...will he think such terrible things abut me now?...I have never drunk dialed anyone before, I have no idea what possessed me to do such a thing...but I am 22 and so is the guy so since he is soo young will he even care?...is this a big deal breaker? Any advices will be great help especially from the men:)
directx Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 It won't be too bad. But you will be the new story among all his friends: "Guess who called me drunk?" "No way! Who?" "Kitty99B!" "Wow! What did she say?" So yeah, you probably gave him a good story to tell and an ego boost. That's all.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 DirectX is correct! I rarely get offended at the ol' drunk dial. Do you think he will know you were drunk? You did call him twice at 1am! That should clue him in. The overall point is that you dont sound like your over him...
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 yea I guess I am not over him after all...but still do guys take what women say when drunk seriously? I mean I am just wondering if he is going to actually think about all that I said or just ignore it since I was drunk...
directx Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Tell us exactly what you said,or close to it as possible.
sb129 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Oh the old drunk dial huh. I have done much worse than that. I turned up at a guy I likes HOUSE, and ended up having to sleep on the sofa cos i was so bad. Needless to say when i woke up at 6am, I scarpered before anyone got up. I was about 21 then i think. Nothing ever happened with the guy.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 I dont know about you DirectX, but I would take it seriously. Bieng drunk just lowers your inhibitions, it doesnt put thoughts in your head that are not already there!
Arizona100 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Are you sure about that one Cobra? Seriously.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Are you sure about that one Cobra? Seriously. Hmmm.... I take it that you have a different opinion on this? Please share!
Arizona100 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 mmh I don't really have an opinion on it. It made me think about my "Mister Don't want to commit" and the things he tells me when he's drunk. I don't take it for granted. I don't talk about it in the morning ("I cant believe I met you", etc...) By the way, as an update on my situation, I spent last week being "distant", giving him some air. Guess what, we've been talking all week, back to what we had. He also asks me specific questions ( do I want kids, when, am I still attracted to my ex husband (hell NO), etc ...). I sometimes wonder if he's trying to figure out if he can trust me (yes he can, I'm faithful like a nun). We had a conversation a few days ago in which I said that yes I wanted him (he asked me) but that I was happy with how things were atm. Basically I get all the attention a guy would give me if he was committed. So why would I pressure him into telling me he is going to commit? And I'm being honest, I do like the situation as it is now. Sorry for highjacking the thread! Oh and dont worry about the drunk dialing! Just don't call him back. I wouldn't .. if you call back he's gonna run. If he feels like trying again, he'll call you.
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 Tell us exactly what you said,or close to it as possible. I don't remember the exactly things I said...but I said things like "it's late and I Shouldn't be callin you....this song came on the radio and made me think of you...I happen to be driving home from work (he knows I do promos in clubs and bar etc)...you're a jerk...I thought you were diff from the others...something made you stand out...i hate the way things ended...you shouldn't throw away what we had...i don't want you to go".. OMG...that was bad wasn't it?...i remember after I left the second message going to sleeping yet debating callin again...i guess i felt i had yet more to say!! that was soo not like my usual me.... will he take any of it serious?...i probably freaked him out didn't i?
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 I dont know about you DirectX, but I would take it seriously. Bieng drunk just lowers your inhibitions, it doesnt put thoughts in your head that are not already there! you really think so?
Arizona100 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Please don't call him back! I think what would freak me out would be the hot/cold "You jerk!" followed by "I want you!"
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 mmh I don't really have an opinion on it. It made me think about my "Mister Don't want to commit" and the things he tells me when he's drunk. I don't take it for granted. I don't talk about it in the morning ("I cant believe I met you", etc...) By the way, as an update on my situation, I spent last week being "distant", giving him some air. Guess what, we've been talking all week, back to what we had. He also asks me specific questions ( do I want kids, when, am I still attracted to my ex husband (hell NO), etc ...). I sometimes wonder if he's trying to figure out if he can trust me (yes he can, I'm faithful like a nun). We had a conversation a few days ago in which I said that yes I wanted him (he asked me) but that I was happy with how things were atm. Basically I get all the attention a guy would give me if he was committed. So why would I pressure him into telling me he is going to commit? And I'm being honest, I do like the situation as it is now. Sorry for highjacking the thread! Oh and dont worry about the drunk dialing! Just don't call him back. I wouldn't .. if you call back he's gonna run. If he feels like trying again, he'll call you. you sound like such a stable know-herself type woman!! why cant i be more like that?
Cobra_X30 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 LOL... Arizona, you know how to hold it down! Remember that when guys get drunk, sometimes those lower inhibitions just make it easier to spit some game!
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 Please don't call him back! I think what would freak me out would be the hot/cold "You jerk!" followed by "I want you!" callin him back is out of the question!! although school starts next week and we go to the same college...chances are we are probably gonna bump into each other...I hope we don't though...not if he doesnt call me before then...it would be beyond uncomfortable
Arizona100 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Spit some games? What the heck is that lol explain! Hey Kitty, you are that kind of woman too. Yup.
directx Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Well, I was fishing for some sexy phone talk, but it sounds like the typical 'I'm drunk and desperate'. Honestly.
Arizona100 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 callin him back is out of the question!! although school starts next week and we go to the same college...chances are we are probably gonna bump into each other...I hope we don't though...not if he doesn't call me before then...it would be beyond uncomfortable Well you know what, after a couple "bumpage" into him, you can stop and say "btw <name>, I meant to apologize for that late phone call, I had had a very bad night! Alright, I'll see you around!". I'd let him reply his "no problem" and walk away with my dignity in my pocket. And I would say it on a cheerful "don't give a dam" kind of tone.
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 Well, I was fishing for some sexy phone talk, but it sounds like the typical 'I'm drunk and desperate'. Honestly. even worse than I thought..lol...should have gone for the sexy talk...haha...i am just forever gonna blame the alcohol!! knowing (little bit) him i can tell he hates those needy-n-desperate types...he is a confident-have-great-things-going-so-i-deserve-the-best kind guy...a little arrogant at time but absolutely stunning...handsome beyond hadnsome...and women fall on his feet! how could i resist?
Arizona100 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Hey we've all done that. My ex bf climbed at my balcony once, 2am in the morning. He was drunk. And he was naked
sofakingmad Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 i had a recent date call me but instead of asking for me she asked for Randy. just my luck.
directx Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 i had a recent date call me but instead of asking for me she asked for Randy. just my luck. That's better than a hot girl saying 'Hi!' to you and saying hi back, only to realize the person they were reallying talking to is behind you... (I still remember that...parking lot of college before Calculus)
Author kitty99b Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 it makes one realize that alcohol is indeed a dangerous thing...i was havin such a good time last night though and not thinkin about any man at all but then my friend asks "whatever happened to that guy" and he got stuck in my mind....and after a few more drinks i felt like i could take on the world (stupid because no one can take on the world)....and then i found myself leaving those stupid (stupid) messages....i really didnt have to i meet so many people and have so many things going for me at the moment...but men keep leavin me....i need to find out why but they never tell!!
Cobra_X30 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Well you know what, after a couple "bumpage" into him, you can stop and say "btw <name>, I meant to apologize for that late phone call, I had had a very bad night! Alright, I'll see you around!". I'd let him reply his "no problem" and walk away with my dignity in my pocket. And I would say it on a cheerful "don't give a dam" kind of tone. Thats a good strategy until he decides to act like he doesnt know who you are! Huh? I'm sorry do I know you? I'm really not sure who you are or what you apologizing for? You've never heard of a guy spitting some game? Like a player?
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