Lauriebell82 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Hey everyone, this is not an immediate or important problem, more of an inquiry for people's opinions. Something that struck me as odd happened the other day. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year (our anniversary is in a few weeks). Anyway he said he found this quiz on cnn.com that we have to take. I asked what it was and he said it was sort of a "couple compatibility quiz." So I said ok. He kept bringing it up to take it a few days later. So finally we had some free time and we did. I went over to the computer and he got all weird and said to sit on the bed, and that he didn't want me to see the name of it. He then copied and pasted all the questions and printed them out in a word document. The quiz was a bunch of questions regarding opinions and plans on kids, marriage and all the issues that go along with it. I was a little surprised he wanted to take this because he is always sort of sketchy when it comes to talking about marriage and children. I figured it was because he wasn't ready. I actually went back to the website later when my boyfriend wasn't around, because I was curious about why he wouldn't show me to name. The quiz was called "questions to ask your fiance before you get married." Now, that was a little weird to me, because he sends me a lot of mixed messages regarding the whole marriage thing so I figured we weren't even close to engagement. Something else I found odd while discussing the quiz, was that he kept saying "if we get married," or "assuming we buy a house together someday." I guess I found that a little strange that he would say it so hypothetically or maybe I'm just reading too much into it. I'm not in a hurry to get married guys, I need to finish school. We did discuss a timeline, late 20's to have children, meaning like 3-4 years. We agreed we would like to be married about 2 years before having children, so that would mean we would be married in like 2 years. Ok, the thing I don't understand is that he doesn't really talk about marriage in the context that he wants it to happen. He says it hypothetically and that is what is confusing me. I mean obviously he thought about it or else he wouldn't give me this quiz. Is this a guy thing that he doesn't say "when we get married" or "when we have children?" I don't get it. I'm NOT expecting a proposal, the soonest would probably be next year when I finish my masters degree. But i find it odd that if he is seirously thinking about marriage in 2 years he wouldn't be saying it with such uncertainty. Or maybe that's just how he is. I don't know, I was hoping you guys could shed some light on this and give me your opnions. Maybe I am just making too much of a big deal about this, I'm just a tad confused by the whole thing.
jcster Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 He's considering it. And for a guy in his twenties, that's a big deal.
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