alpha70 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 This is kind of stupid, but do you ever wonder? Is it hard for you to NOT look at theirs? I'm 3 days NC and it's HARD AS HELL for me not to look. It shows her "mood" as RELIEVED, and has quotes like, I'd rather be hated for who I am rather than loved for who I am not." I think I caught her in a lie and she denied it and went ballistic, basically ending the relationship and haven't talked since. I sent an email to her a day after the blow up, saying life was too short to end something like that. I told her that I felt bad for how it ended, said I would miss her and wished her luck. I left it feeling good. Never heard back, but didn't expect it as she's an ICE COLD B......tch!!! It's so easy to go look at their myspace, but I'm cutting myself off so I can move on. Anyone else?????
uniqueone Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 If my ex had a MySpace page, I'd be having a good laugh right now.
Teacher's Pet Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 My ex checks out my Match.com page regularly. I get emailed through the system when someone's been looking. -tp hmm....
shockandawed Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Hey TP, How do you do that? I am pretty new to the myspace thing and it shows how many times my profile has been accessed, but I don't know how to set it to see who.
Teacher's Pet Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 On Match.com, the system sends you an email when people are "checking you out" -tp checked out.
number2 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 yeah -- it takes a lot for me not to look at the ex's myspace. it helps because she has her profile as private and i removed her from my friends list. i can still see her picture which always plays with emotions but honestly after 2 months i dont have the urge to look at it like i used to. keep strong:)
Jmina Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 but how do you know its your ex that is checking you out on match.com? does it say who is actually looking at you? jmina
Author alpha70 Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 Well, with myspace you'll never be able to tell who actually has looked at your myspace. There are sites that tell you you can track who's been on your page, but you really can't see who it was.....TOM, who is the myspace guy says you can't track it. Yeah, it sucks as I can't get over this chick even though she was a royal bitch to me in the end, no respect towards me, etc.... It comes down to a physical thing....she was beautiful but not so beautiful inside. I need to realize that and see her for the ugly person she is inside.
madgun68 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 I would say don't look. The temptation may be hard to not look at the profile, but what you may see could be much worse. I thinking along the lines of nasty messages meant for you (or about you) or seeing their status change. Too many possibilties of seeing things that will only set you back in the coping process. As far as an ex checking out yours.. It's a possibility too. But really.. Suppose you found out they were. Wouldn't that lead to a whole range of questions that have no answer? (Why are they looking.. What does it mean.. etc.)
Author alpha70 Posted August 17, 2007 Author Posted August 17, 2007 Yes, it is the best thing to do. Stay away from it. It's so easy to check it out though...type the email addy and there you have it. Yes, imagine a picture of another dude on her arm, etc..... she might be setting a trap for your emotions or maybe not, but it does no good for me to see that. Trying to figure out if a specific song means something...it's pure torture and is a major set back in the healing process. I need to buck up and when I start typing her email addy I need to shut off the computer and do something else.
KittenMoon Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 I KNOW my ex looks at my MySpace page regularly. I have trackers embedded in it. While it's true you can't determine exactly who it is, you can figure it out with a little logic. Actually, the way I figured it out was accidental- I noticed him with the "Online Now" icon one day while I was on myspace (not on his page but we share several of the same friends) and at the same time someone from our city viewed my page. This happened a few more times- the same person viewing my page while he was online. So you can figure out who looks at your page, but it can take significant effort if you don't have a bit of odd luck like I did.
funnyfarm Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Oh dear....doesn't this ring familiar! For me, it's Facebook. I'm worse for looking at his new girlfriend's profile....it drives me nuts as she is such a showboat...constantly posting pictures of herself especially partying pictures. I just shake my head everytime but the morbid side of me keeps going back:sick: I went to bed last night saying I really have to stop this! I swear, sometimes I want to throw my computer out the window...it's the stupid Facebook that made me find some things out in the first place. I've had many people say it should be called "Relationship wrecker" not Facebook!
zabeczka Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 I broke up with my boyfriend last week! And since i thought i have done the bigest mistake!!!!! So i called him back... We sopke and he told me that he's happy im going out with my friends since he saw the pictures on facebook! See he is looking! but it Doesnt mean he wants me back? I dont think and know so! It's just a human reaction to wanna see how your ex is doing or going! I stopped looking at his profil because it was hurting tooo much! Today i feel much better and im not planning to see it! If he would want me back he would contact me! He didnt it's his lost! I loved him with all my heart but if someone doesnt want you then too bad! One day i know he'll come back just like all my other exs but by then im sure it's going to be too late! I always had this theory of when it's over it's over! No coming back! But with him i thought i would spend the rest of my life! But everything happens for a reason so there no point of being stuck on something that wont happened! Have your grief but then when u r ready! Move on! There's someone out there for u!
Ssheena Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 HAHAHAHA! I am the queen of checking myspace. Then again, I'm not exactly very sane sometimes. I walk the fine line/thin wall of sanity and genius and sometimes I slip off on one side or the other. I don't have a "real" myspace page so my x can't look there but he said he used to look at my blog daily. Easier said then done to stay away from it.
Gina22 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Hey TP, How do you do that? I am pretty new to the myspace thing and it shows how many times my profile has been accessed, but I don't know how to set it to see who. I would like to know my self..
relearning2breath Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 I dont know how often my ex checks my myspace but I know he has. Really silly on his side, I post blogs and on myspace you can "subscribe" to someones blog which basically sends you a message and lets you know that your friend has posted a new blog. We'll he was the only one who had subscribed to my blog and whenever i post a new one and I see that hes online now, all of a sudden my blog views will go up 1. So i know he's read it. But i dont blog everyday so who knows really how often he actually looks. I stopped torturing myself by looking at his page a couple weeks after we broke up. That was 3 months ago. I didnt need to see him proclaiming his love for his new girlfriend. Hes not worth the heart ache. Believe me its just not worth it. IT never says what you hope it says. I admit every time I looked I hoped that he would have some sad song playing about missing someone or had made some mistake...never the case. The best thing to do? Just delete him/her. Put your myspace on private and just let go. Its hard at first but give it a couple weeks and you'll finally start to feel at peace. Trust me.
AriaIncognito Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 As someone else said, there's no settings on myspace that will allow you to see who has viewed you. You can embed a tracker, but those only tell you IP addresses and sometimes ISPs of the person looking. So you need to be a little smart about it if you're from somewhere common. As for match, you have to be a subscriber in order to see who's viewed you recently, I think. I used to be able to when I paid, but now I can't. My ex used to read my blog but I have no idea if he still does. He fell off the face of the earth a few days after he met the new girl. Who knows if they are still together but he's not coming after me so, whatever.
Teacher's Pet Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Yeah, I'm a Match.com subscriber (always the optimist!) The system will give you the screen names of people who have been "checking you out". The ex in question who has been looking was the one I was with for almost 6 years (not my most recent ex) *sighs* Maybe it's a sign... -tp so is "stop"
cr8sea Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 Oh dear....doesn't this ring familiar! For me, it's Facebook. I'm worse for looking at his new girlfriend's profile Ohhh i hear you! im constantly checking my exs gf who then became his ex. the thing though is that at first i didnt like her much...for obvious reasons...but then i met her a few times (pure torture) and went from dilsiking her, to feeling bad for her (he would still cry over me or get upset of i dated someone else while he was with her), to liking her for her strong character, to just like her and wonder why in the world he broke up with her. (yeah im odd) But yeah I also check my first boyfriend myspace, just for the hell of it...I feel bad cuz i know he had really strong feelings for me for almost 5 years after we broke up and might still do. I just want to know whats up with him without actually contact him. Bassically if he found out im checking his myspace, he's gonna get all kinds of crazy reconciliation ideas....and thats the last thing i want... I guess its just plain curiosity and morbid fun....but then that also make me wonder if the ex's i cared for check my myspace too, the way i do with this one guy.....hm.........
cr8sea Posted August 18, 2007 Posted August 18, 2007 I admit every time I looked I hoped that he would have some sad song playing about missing someone or had made some mistake... Lol i had the same hope...and then one day, one of my exs, the one i really cared for, had a french song in his profile called "comment te dire adieu" (how am i going to say goodbye?). I know im the only one he knows who knows french, it was one of the things that he liked about me. A few days later i found out he was moving to australia. Funny thing is that although we hanged out every week, and talked about how he was going to leave he avoided saying good bye to me....he didnt even invited me to his good bye party and refused to see me the last days he was here....I guess he never figured out how to say good bye for real.
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