mspikes Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Hey all, About 3 weeks ago, I posted a message up here about my own mate asking for a break after we were seeing each other pretty strongly for 6 months. This break seems a little different then those that have been posted here due to the fact that we put a time line on it of one month. During this time, I've cried (literally had to make myself do that because I was in so much pain), found solace with my friends and family, and mostly felt pangs of sadness due to the fact that I had made this guy my life and now he was gone. I took a trip to my parent's home during the 2nd week of the break, and while I had my family took my mind off of it somewhat... there were still a lot of things that still connected me to him. And finally near the end of the week, I caved... I saw him on Gmail chat (kinda knew he'd be on) and said "hey". The conversation was very light. It seriously was a conversation just like we had had in the past. We talked about work... and he asked how I was doing to which I replied... "I miss you terribly". He replied with a ":(" and the conversation continued as normal. We didn't talk about our situation....he joked around a bit, which I know is a tactic of coping with things for him, and I ended the conversation by just telling him that I hoped he was doing well, and that I loved him. After that conversation, my feelings changed a bit... I started not to dwell on him as much, due to his sort of "non-chalant" attitude and not really saying anything about US. So, I came back (to my own) home, with an attitude of "this friggin' break is a waste of my precious time" and started meeting other guys... but, I always prefaced my contacts with the fact that "I'm going through something right now, and only looking for a friend". This has worked fine. The pangs have started to subside, and I'm really suprized at how I'm starting to get over things... and at this point, I want to get through this last week coming up and finally get come closure on this whole situation. Believe me, I'd love for us to get back together because I still think he's an amazing guy... however, for me, it would be like starting all over again, which really wouldn't be bad. And although folks have said that breaks are good for a couple, this "break" still hasn't done me any good. Sure, I've reflected back on our relationship, and I do feel like I layed it on thick but, he never seemed to not enjoy himself with me. (I've got a situation now where someone's laying it on thick with me, and I told him to go find someone else to be pressed about..) And, there are things that point to him having a lot of things going on (swimming in work, sibling getting ready to go to college, purging a jealous ex..). But even with that, I'm not the type of person who likes to play a "hunch" and everyday that goes by that he dosen't contact me and finally do something, I just hear another nail going in the coffin that holds our relationship. So, once we reach the end of the break, if he dosen't contact me, I'm just gonna go to him and ask if things are over. If he wants more time, fine but, I'd want an open door of communication. If he wants to continue, let's start it up again. And if he dosen't want to do it anymore, we need to go our seperate ways and just acknowledge that the time together was wonderful. So, question... have any of you done a break with a time limit? If you have, how did it end? Comments welcome. Thanks for reading.
niceguy27 Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 I am wondering the same thing myself right now. We both said a month, but it hurts me too much to do that. Plus, my girlfriend has been trying to deal with this issue for a few months now so I told her recently she has 2 weeks.
CrazyPanda Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 I've done a break with a time limit. I told her I would wait for a month, maybe two max. This waiting period was the hardest thing I have ever done. However, the story ended about...2 1/2 weeks into the break. She told me she moved on with her new guy. Oh and the guy was the original reason for the break because she didn't know if this was what she really wanted. Mine didn't end in a happy ending but that's just how live goes. Hope you're end up differently than mine. I'm secretly still waiting for her even though it's over. I'm not seeing any other girls but I'm guessing her new love is just "summer love" and once her life gets settled things will go back to normal. But once school starts for me(one month from now), I'm moving on.
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