Author uniqueone Posted August 19, 2007 Author Posted August 19, 2007 I always need recovery time after a break-up if the relationship was a serious thing. I need to get my own groove back, and generally I am relieved to be on my own again and not eager to be in a relationship with another person. I tend to be supersensitive to slights right after a relationship, which means it is hard for me to be ok with the vicissitudes of dating. I'm too vulnerable. Of course this depends how long the relationship was, how intense, and how it ended. I may go on a few dates, just for fun, but there is no way I would jump into anything serious right away. Even if I was to meet someone I liked, I would probably take it very slowly. And like you, I don't find that there are lines of guys I'm interested in. Every once in a while, someone catches my attention, but it certainly isn't a matter of NEXT!! I guess it is an age thing, as far as available candidates are concerned, but even in my 20s I did not go from one relationship to another. Though I may have fooled around--and my number of partners is really a private matter. This friend of mine just had her divorce go through and she just met someone on the personals and she's head over heels for him. I thought about how some people click with others so easily and I think I know why. I'm not mainstream. I might look like I conform if you see me on the surface but I've always been the type to follow the beat to my own drummer. For instance, there's a sports team in my area that's treated like a religion. I really don't like watching the sport and I don't and I don't care about the team. So since so many where I live think the team is a god, I wouldn't click with them. I actually just figured that out today....why some click so easily with so many and someone like me doesn't. The bad part is, when I DO find someone I click with, I can't seem to let them go, even when they have certain qualities that aren't good at all.
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