augiesd Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I have known my SO cell phone password and her internet password for a month or so now. I can see the numbers that she is texting and calling and the times that they occur. I have asked her to be honest with me about who she is texting or getting calls from when I am with her, but when I check later online, it's an old BF or a number I don't know. Recently, she has been talking and texting a new guy guite often, and she has told me it's an old friend who is married and has children. This is true, however the times that she has been texting and talking are late at night or VERY early morning. Do I say something about knowing this information? At this point, it's just getting harder, and probably won't last if something is going on or not. Do I just come out and try the honesty thing and see where it goes? Thanks
Cobra_X30 Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I have known my SO cell phone password and her internet password for a month or so now. I can see the numbers that she is texting and calling and the times that they occur. I have asked her to be honest with me about who she is texting or getting calls from when I am with her, but when I check later online, it's an old BF or a number I don't know. Recently, she has been talking and texting a new guy guite often, and she has told me it's an old friend who is married and has children. This is true, however the times that she has been texting and talking are late at night or VERY early morning. Do I say something about knowing this information? At this point, it's just getting harder, and probably won't last if something is going on or not. Do I just come out and try the honesty thing and see where it goes? Thanks No, there is absolutely no reason to let her know. If you need to jump her about it... come up with some other excuse... take a look at her cell. Then have a conversation with her about it. Your basically playing poker. Dont show your cards until everything is out on the table. Why does she need to talk to all these other guys anyway? Doesnt that take away from her relationship with you?
Love&Light Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Follow your gut, it is always right. I would be honest with your SO. If a relationship has lies within, it is destined to fail. Is it really worth feeling as if you have to play investigator on a daily basis? That, IMO, is not a relationship.
LuminousZ Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Is it really worth feeling as if you have to play investigator on a daily basis? That, IMO, is not a relationship. True. But in this way, you can better understand whats going on and deal with it sooner rather than later. I've been struggling with this same situation for several months now.., had a few "heart to heart" talks over it. I expressed how unflattering that behavior is to me.., no need to let her know right away.., just long enough to figure out if she's worthy of a relationship.
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