KingCrimson Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 (I'm a guy) Eh, I have no problem carrying on an intelligent conversation, joking around. But my problem is even on dates I'll just act normal - as I do around any friends or classmates. I have no clue how to tease, flirt in a romantic or sexual way. Any tips, maybe what to avoid saying? What to definitely say/imply? How do I determine if she's ready for a kiss? Platonic conversation and joking around -> ???????? -> Making out, having her clearly flirt back, kissing, etc.. What's the missing link
Kamille Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Flirting is easy. Especially when you have a premium European car to wow her with. But it isn't about what you say, it is how you behave. It's in the little things: Fleetingly touch her arm or back. (my favorite is when a man I am on a date with spontaneously touches my lower back) glance at her lips - you can do this during the date but you MUST do it when saying goodbye. It will signal that you want to kiss her. Laugh at her jokes.
directx Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I don't know how to flirt either. I just don't do it. No big deal.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I don't know how to flirt either. I just don't do it. No big deal. Or maybe you just dont call it flirting?
yergawd Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I love to tease to flirt. I still do it all the time not trying "pick someone up" I am in a LTR but still enjoy it. If they are a little shorter I'll ask if they have to shop in the kids section. Or if they spilled something I will act disgusted. My GF always says you're being as a55 (she's not serious but having fun because of something I said.). So I'll ask her why she always talks about my like a piece of meat and I'm more than just a great a55. I don't compliment a lot but when I do it's 100% sincere and it's not just "you're beautiful, you're smart, you're fun" I'll say "God, you're awful to be around. Your smart, hot and fun everything I hate in a woman" That's how I told my GF I enjoy being with her, she got the message and now I can just say you're awful to be with. said jokingly and with a smile. Instead of saying I missed you I'll say wow you really missed me. Or you know I think you like me. It's all in how you say it and say it with a smile. bottom line have fun, be fun. And to differentiate those that you are sincerely interested in vs just being playful make contact light touches on hands, shoulders back. If she stiffens, or seems uncomfortable back up let her make contact with you first.
Yamaha Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 With your approach you will get friends but if you don't let them know you want some romance then that is where you will stay. You need to let them know you find her sexy and you see her as a desirable women. It is harder to take that next step to a romantic level because many guys don't want to seem pushy or only she her for sex but you can let them know in a more subtle way, touches, glances, body language or if the passion is very strong between you 2 then tell them want you want to do to them. If she feels the same way your problem is solved. Just be confident in yourself as a man and let her know you see her a sexy women not just as a friend.
lino Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 let her know you see her a sexy women not just as a friend. Very important! Also try to take the girls on dates where it's very easy to flirt. For example I've always found it really easy at the beach where you can playfully splash water on each other and touch each other without any discomfort. When you wanna make a move to kiss her you just need to be somewhere secluded. Look into her eyes & at her lips, caress her gently on the arm or leg and gently move in for it. If she moves away or looks discomforted then it's not the right time. Hope this helps
amber1 Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 Flirting is easy. Especially when you have a premium European car to wow her with. But it isn't about what you say, it is how you behave. It's in the little things: Fleetingly touch her arm or back. (my favorite is when a man I am on a date with spontaneously touches my lower back) glance at her lips - you can do this during the date but you MUST do it when saying goodbye. It will signal that you want to kiss her. Laugh at her jokes. These are good.
Trialbyfire Posted August 17, 2007 Posted August 17, 2007 If you're playful with words, it can be about what you say in conjunction with how you say it. You've seen how people do it, where they look at each other in a teasing fashion, maybe a little out the corner of their eyes, with a small flirtatious smile. Discussion can sizzle with innuendo. As for a girl wanting you to kiss her, best way to find out is to get close to her. If she pulls away, she's not ready or isn't feeling the same way. If she allows you to kiss her but only on her cheek, well, you know where she's at.
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