Star Gazer Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 So I'm supposed to have a date tonight with a certain dude - would be the third date. Over the weekend arranged to get together Wednesday night (tonight), but didn't establish anything concrete in terms of timing or activity. I called him today around lunch time to ask if we were still on for tonight, and if so, what time...where...what...etc. Cute little message. It's now 4:10 p.m., and I haven't heard a peep from him. He's been on MySpace since that time, so it's not like he's too busy to call or text me back. What do I do? If he calls, how late is too late to still go out with him? (If he doesn't call at all, I already know the answer.)
Trialbyfire Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 I wouldn't sweat it. He might be checking out things to do before getting back to you. I wouldn't have issues with how late it is unless it's bootie call late.
bluepoppy Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 Actually I disagree. It's third date, so it's all still new. If he learns now that he can make last minute arrangements with you, he'll get into bad habits. Really bit nice about it all, but if last minute arrangements stress you out (they do me), don't do it. As that's the way it will be going forward. It he hasn't got back by 5:30, you don't have enough time to go home, shower, get changed into the right outfit etc, cos you don't know what your doing. Have him re-arrange. When he calls, just polite tell him that since he didn't get back to you, you figured something had come up, so you've accepted an invite to go out with the girls for a drink etc. (Then go and see one of your girlfriends so you aren't lieing about it)
directx Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 Keep us updated stargazer. I don't agree with his behavior. Regardless if he finds you special or not (which he should), he has an obligation to communicate since he made plans with you. I think its careless and inconsiderate
Krytellan Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 What do I do? If he calls, how late is too late to still go out with him? (If he doesn't call at all, I already know the answer.) I think you should choose to bail on him. I would suggest that you initiate the cancellation. He's not respecting your time by leaving you hanging for 3 days (if I read it right), or he's being foolishly "cool". But good luck. I think you set yourself up for being OK with this behavior in the future if you go with him last minute.
Author Star Gazer Posted August 16, 2007 Author Posted August 16, 2007 It's 5:05 p.m., still no word. I'm not going out with him tonight if he calls...even in the next 2 minutes. Lame, lame, lame. He's made comments here and there that he wants the girl he's dating to be reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally into him, and that he has a "hard time following through." I read that as he wants to be chased and cannot bother himself to keep his commitments. Y'all know that I won't tolerate that.
Pyro Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Oh yeah. Guy sounds like a total flake. Back to the old drawing board.
Touche Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I agree with the others, SG. Let this boy go. Not worth your time.
Pyro Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Eh, his loss. It sure is. He'll realize the mistake he made and feel like a jackas$.
Ruby Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I hope he calls and you kick him to the curb! (has he called yet?)
Arizona100 Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I hope he calls you because I want to read the answer you are going to give him!
livebuzzwords Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I WOULD NEVER DO THAT - IF YOU TALKED TO ME ON THE PHONE I'D MAKE SURE I WAS THERE...FUNNY U SAID THAT,..SOMEONE LEFT A MESSage on my answering machine at home but u cannot make out what they say....it sounds like the two peopleare at a bar - i have no clue who it was as i didn't re coggnize the voices weird eh
cr8sea Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I agree, too late! Specially since its just the third date....what a lame dude! waaaaste of time! I have a question though...is it ok to agree to see each other spontaneously after a few months of dating? or the whole...he must plan ahead thing should always be the rule??? I feel i like the spontaneity, but i do agree that some planning should come into the game ..... so....if he plans sometimes and sometimes either he or I call and see if we can get together later, does that make me too available??? hm..what do you guys think? (and sorry for highjacking the thread!!)
amber1 Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Actually I disagree. It's third date, so it's all still new. If he learns now that he can make last minute arrangements with you, he'll get into bad habits. Really bit nice about it all, but if last minute arrangements stress you out (they do me), don't do it. As that's the way it will be going forward. It he hasn't got back by 5:30, you don't have enough time to go home, shower, get changed into the right outfit etc, cos you don't know what your doing. Have him re-arrange. When he calls, just polite tell him that since he didn't get back to you, you figured something had come up, so you've accepted an invite to go out with the girls for a drink etc. (Then go and see one of your girlfriends so you aren't lieing about it) Lol, I just had a situation like this the other night because the guy waited to call me at 7 pm for a date the same night...which I thought was too late. I didn't answer when he called. Now the guy is MIA. Oh well, maybe it's for the best. To OP, I would say that if he hasn't called you by 6:30 pm and you still have no clue what you guys are supposed to be doing, don't answer. Just remember you don't want to be the backburner girl.
amber1 Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 One more thing, if you don't hear from him in 1-2 days with a good reason, delete him from your myspace!
directx Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 One more thing, if you don't hear from him in 1-2 days with a good reason, delete him from your myspace! I would delete him now
Author Star Gazer Posted August 16, 2007 Author Posted August 16, 2007 I would delete him now Beat ya to it!
Author Star Gazer Posted August 16, 2007 Author Posted August 16, 2007 Did he ever call, SG? Nope. I'm a little irritated at the lack of consideration, but I really couldn't care otherwise. Next!
Touche Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 Nope. I'm a little irritated at the lack of consideration, but I really couldn't care otherwise. Next! Well, that's a healthy attitude. But where do you find these guys? Sheesh. That really is so rude!
annabelle75 Posted August 16, 2007 Posted August 16, 2007 I'm sorry SG. Getting stood up and ignored hurts, even if the guy wasn't so great to begin with. He deserves a swift kick to the nuts for that.
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