Stacid Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 I've been great friends with a guy for about a year and a half now. We talked on a daily basis, often more than once a day, and hung out every weekend. Yes, I did develop a crush on him, but I never made a move and neither did he. A few months ago, it came out (via a text that he accidentally showed me) that he was going to go on a date with someone. No big deal, right? So, I told him that if he was going to be starting to date people, we'd probably have to take a step back and spend less time together so we could maintain our friendship if either one of us got involved with one specific person. He agreed. We continued to talk every day. Hung out as usual. One day he called and was driving home, saying he was out. I asked if he was on a date, in a funny way, not a weird way, and he acted very wierd and kept changing the subject. It was so odd. Turns out he was on a date, and I couldn't understand why he'd avoid telling me that, since he tells me pretty much everything else. So, I asked him a few weeks later why he felt weird about it, just to find out, not accusing or anything, just inquiring. Anyhow, after a lot of weirdness and drama, he tells me he feels weird telling me because he's just going out with so many women he's embarrassed about it. This came as a huge surprise to me, since we spent an hour on the phone each night, and he never once mentioned any girls. But apparrently it's been going on for a long time now. I told him it upset me that he kept this from me, and he admitted that he'd lied to me about it. But, honestly, it was a very straightforward conversation, not an argument. This was last Friday. He hasn't called me or made any attempt to contact me since. Huh? I don't understand what happened. I was fine with him going out with people, I just asked him not to lie about anything, and now he's cut me off? Any idea what is going on in this guy's head? It's like I never knew him, and that's so odd because, until this, I thought I knew him better than anyone. Help!
birdie Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I think he is probably confused and wants to make sure he handles you or the situation in the right way. Men sometimes like to take time out (as opposed to talking things through) when they are not sure. I'm sure he cares about you it's just that he needs time to readjust.
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