Dawg88 Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 I was with my ex over a weekend 2 weeks ago but we haven't talked since. I've called and texted, but she didn't respond. Finally, today I emailed her and asked for an honest answer. I couldn't go on anymore with so much uncertainty. She emailed back and said that she is seeing someone, they are very happy, and do not call or email her anymore. Talk about a slap in the face, but at least I know. The thing with her is that she is awesome in the infatuation stage. She puts her best foot forward and makes you feel great. But, when reality sets in, all of her flaws come out. She is very needy and she only wants things done her way. I am sure they are having the time of their lives right now, but I'm also sure that at some point this will come crashing down because I know her too well. She is just seeing this guy as a potential husband, but nce he finds her out, look out. OK, what do I do? I still have strong feelings for her. Obviously, I need to go no contact. She did tell me two weeks ago that if she misses me, she will call. Right now, she isn't thinking that way, but maybe she will start missing me over time. Is there any hope here? I know I have to move on and go live my life, but is it dead with her for good? Link to post Share on other sites
Curious139 Posted August 16, 2007 Share Posted August 16, 2007 Believe me, I know how you feel, as do many other people here. It is so hard to accept that she has left you. No-one can make someone else change their mind about love. Oh, we can try to persuade someone but the old adage of letting your love go free is true. If she really wants you then she has to come to that realisation herself. Generally the advice here is No Contact. It is very hard to do but it serves two purposes - firstly you preserve your dignity by not begging, making extravagant promises out of desperation; and secondly it allows you time to heal. Every time you contact your lover, you risk renewing the pain - believe me, I've done it - and it simply makes the awful reality that much harder to accept. Not that I've reached acceptance myself after nearly two months but I have to trust that it will come. Keep busy, go out with friends, remove things which remind you of her out of sight. Hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites
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