Having a crush on my best friend

[intherye]

I would like to add my 2 cents to this really awesome site. Hopefully someone will give me some advice on a really stupid situation:

 

Well I am gay, lol seriously I am. I am out to most of my friends but not the world. So I am pretty straight acting. I know the guy (my best friend at college atm) for about a year and the first time I saw him I had an instant attraction to him and some how I feel he does too. Because I had a boy friend (broke up six months ago) at the time so I didn't do anything other than being just a good platonic buddy.

 

Me and this boy, spent more time together and we really become best buddies this year. Some how we avoided the topics about relationship/sexuality/chicks/guys stc... cause we got so much in common so we normally take about about music, jokes, sport, careers etc. You might ask does he know that I am gay, the answer is not directely, he might know by the way I acted. The next question u might ask is why didn't u tell him? long story short: I had a very bad experience confessing I am gay AND have a crush on a best friend b4 (My ex best friend literally abandoned me and I went into a deep depression for weeks, and that was in high school so you can imaging it was like the whole world just collapsed).

 

So now, having more experience on this kinda things I am still hopeless when it comes to this kind of situation. He kinda flirted with me but I don't know if he's just kidding. For example one time at his place he sang 'you are beautiful' by jame blunt and looked me in the eye, he is normally into heavy metal rock music. Well so you can imagine what that means.

 

He's from a really conservative family, so my theory about him is that he's been brought up straight and his family and friends may disown him if his is gay so he is still in the closet. But than again he might be straight lol

 

Has anyone been in the same situation before and made it work? i.e. letting him know elegantly and hopefully we will be a happy couple:)

 

Well, rejection is such a powerful emotion we try to avoid, without it this site will probably never existed.

 

All the best and share the love

[BlueEyedSarah]

I don't know if he does like you as more than friends. I don't think you have provided enough information to make me wonder if he is also gay or likes you more than friends.