oddie Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 I have a post in "coping" explaining my situation....to make a long story short I started NC on "D" day when she broke it off with me by email .....since then she has tried to make contact 4 times (2 by email, and 2 by SMS) a short apology the first two times the day after D-day (1 email and 1 SMS) then ripping me by SMS the next day (because of no reply?), then a lenthy apology by email asking me to forgive her (very rude/hateful breakup) and telling me she misses me but not admiting she wants to reconcile three days later....how long should I remain on NC knowing that D-day happened via email with her refusing to take my calls.......I want to email her and say "how do you propose that I forgive someone who doesn't even respect me enough to talk about us in person" but I don't want to end NC to get s**t on just to make her feel better about the way she acted during D-day.....is he reaching out for her or us?...am I missing something here? HELP!!
CrazyPanda Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 I'm not sure but all i can say is that I hate breaking up through emails and over the phone. It's best to hear it face to face. You started no contact a little to early I want to say. Try to talk her in person and try to get everything you need out of it. Maybe some closure if you need or get some questions answered. Only then will you know that it's offically broken off. The vague emails and text messages are not enough.
Author oddie Posted August 15, 2007 Author Posted August 15, 2007 well I emailed her with what I said I was going to, and we shared a couple more, and basically she is fine with the way things turned out, and sees no point in talking.....so really back to square one in my issues with her....seems she can never see the other persons side of the situation, which I don't think I will ever get use to.
CrazyPanda Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 selfish. If she doesn't know that you need some kind of closure or real talk than just a silly email, she doesn't care as much. But there is another idea where she doesn't want to meet you face to face beacuse it would be too hard for her. Either way, she's not allowing you too move on because she just stopped everything at where it is. It's going to be hard but just move on. It's no use to force the other person to do something she doesn't want to do.
Author oddie Posted August 16, 2007 Author Posted August 16, 2007 Thank you Panda, I am realizing that the only way I can move on is to take that route myself I mean if I couldn't rely on her in the relationship to have empathy, I certainly am not going to get it from her out of it!!
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