JetBlack Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 I came on here hoping to find some other guys in similar situations to me, but there hasn't been much posted. I don't know if I'd consider myself an OM, seeing as there is no relationship between her and I, just a one night stand that happened over the weekend, but I am still feeling pretty guilty, and it is very possible that our tryst could be outed. Any OMs out there?
Author JetBlack Posted August 15, 2007 Author Posted August 15, 2007 We were walked in on by one of my co-workers, and one of hers. Are we screwed, or do people generally keep quiet about these things?
Touche Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 We were walked in on by one of my co-workers, and one of hers. Are we screwed, or do people generally keep quiet about these things? Well obviously, you were screwed. Whether you'll be found out is another story. Were any of the co-workers friends with the woman's husband? If so, I'd be worried. If not, I would think most people would want no part of the drama.
Author JetBlack Posted August 15, 2007 Author Posted August 15, 2007 My co-worker knows her husband, but isn't a close friend. As for her co-worker, I don't know. I don't know her co-worker that well, but he pulled me aside and told me to keep quiet, so I'll assume he won't turn me in to husband. What I'm more worried about is rumors. My supervisor is friends with her husband, so if things were to start being whispered about I could find myself looking for a new job.
Touche Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 My co-worker knows her husband, but isn't a close friend. As for her co-worker, I don't know. I don't know her co-worker that well, but he pulled me aside and told me to keep quiet, so I'll assume he won't turn me in to husband. What I'm more worried about is rumors. My supervisor is friends with her husband, so if things were to start being whispered about I could find myself looking for a new job. Honestly, that doesn't sound too good. I'd start lining up a job if I were you. Did you actually have sex at work?
Author JetBlack Posted August 15, 2007 Author Posted August 15, 2007 No. We work across the street from each other, so it was a chance meeting at the bar most of us hang out at. She was there, and heading to a party with her co-workers, I was there with some of mine, and we all went to the party together. That's where we were caught.
Touche Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 No. We work across the street from each other, so it was a chance meeting at the bar most of us hang out at. She was there, and heading to a party with her co-workers, I was there with some of mine, and we all went to the party together. That's where we were caught. You were caught on the way to the party? I don't get it. You had sex while crossing the street or something? Sorry, don't mean to make fun but I'm trying to understand where you were and what the circumstances were. But really it doesn't sound good.
Author JetBlack Posted August 15, 2007 Author Posted August 15, 2007 sorry if it was unclear. we were caught at the party. i know choice of venue wasn't very good, but I thought we had privacy, and this wasn't something I planned on doing. It was a drunken moment on my part, and it wasn't about much more than having a quickie.
Touche Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 sorry if it was unclear. we were caught at the party. i know choice of venue wasn't very good, but I thought we had privacy, and this wasn't something I planned on doing. It was a drunken moment on my part, and it wasn't about much more than having a quickie. It's ok. Sorry, it's not really that relevant, I was just curious. Well, if you think your co-worker won't say anything that's good. So the only one you have to worry about is her co-worker, right? And all you can do is ask the woman you messed around with I guess. I don't really know what to tell you. Are you sure those are the ONLY two that knew about it? If that's the case then luck might be on your side. It's doubtful that her co-worker would want to get involved in the drama, like I've said. No point in worrying yourself to death about it. If you lose your job over it, lesson learned, right. Can you ask the woman you had the fling with? Maybe she can reassure you.
Author JetBlack Posted August 15, 2007 Author Posted August 15, 2007 the woman texted me this morning and basically said "deny, deny, deny". Something tells me this isn't her first trip down this road, because she seems pretty confident. Maybe I'm just more freaked out than I need to be, but this is the first time I've been involved in something like this.
Touche Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 the woman texted me this morning and basically said "deny, deny, deny". Something tells me this isn't her first trip down this road, because she seems pretty confident. Maybe I'm just more freaked out than I need to be, but this is the first time I've been involved in something like this. Look, it was a stupid thing to do as you already know. It's her problem now, not yours. I just hope you've learned your lesson and you never do that again. It's wrong and it's not worth it. I'd let it go. It's very doubtful that you'll actually lose your job. I mean not that it's out of the question but it doesn't sound like anyone will find out about it. Try to let it go and learn from it.
Author JetBlack Posted August 15, 2007 Author Posted August 15, 2007 you're probably right, i think i just needed someone to tell me that. i've already learned that i don't like to feel like i do right now, and that's enough to keep me from doing anything like this again. i just hope we manage to "get away with it".
Touche Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 you're probably right, i think i just needed someone to tell me that. i've already learned that i don't like to feel like i do right now, and that's enough to keep me from doing anything like this again. i just hope we manage to "get away with it". As distasteful as your last sentence sounded to me, I do hope you feel reassured. Everyone makes mistakes and that was a doozy. It's good that you did learn from it though. It's really wrong and certainly not worth this kind of worry. Put it behind you and chalk it up as a bad mistake. I agree that it sounds like this woman is an accomplished liar and can cover it up with no problem if she has to. So try to relax and put this behind you, ok?
Author JetBlack Posted August 15, 2007 Author Posted August 15, 2007 ok, thanks for the advice. it's always nice to have an ear when you need one.
Touche Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 ok, thanks for the advice. it's always nice to have an ear when you need one. You're welcome. I'm glad I could put your mind at ease. Now don't do it again! (Can you see me wagging my finger at you?)
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