Dawg88 Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 I am confused about no contact and need some help on how it should work. I haven't spoken to my ex in over a week. I do not know if she is seeing anyone right now. I want to go on with no contact, but we live 35 minutes apart and have relatively no chance of crossing paths. How do I give her time and space, but at the same time help her keep me in her thoughts? Do I wait longer and maybe send a short note, or do I stay away altogether?
Gianna1974 Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Who initiated the no contact? If the realtionship is over then you need to move on and respect the decision you both agreed to. If you are "taking a break" then I certainly think it is ok to send an e-mail after a week and a half has gone by saying, I hope all is well. But make sure you don't string your heart along. Many times people will say they need a break because another prospect came along (or they want to date others) but they want to keep you on the sidelines just in case it doesn't work. It is really hard to give advice without really knowing why you two are not speaking.
Author Dawg88 Posted August 14, 2007 Author Posted August 14, 2007 She would go out with me, then push me away. Finally, I started calling and texting and she shut me out. Then, she told me I was starting to push her further away. She told me she still loved me but wasn't sure we could get along. She was bitter and angry that I didn't commit to her, and she didn't want to put herself in a situation where I would hurt her again. She told me she needed time, not to call her, she would call me if she starts to miss me. I know, it seems hopeless. I started no contact a week ago thinking that she may miss me as time goes on.
mspikes Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 I'm sorry to hear about the situation. Give her some time, and also give yourself time to reflect back on why you all are taking a break. Once you've had a chance to think about it, ask to see her and talk very openly and honestly with her about your relationship. Tell her to spare your feelings and just tell you what she dosen't like. It'll be hard, and it could mark the end of your relationship but, at least you won't get dragged along. Personally, breaks w/o contact stink. I'm going through one right now for one month that I truly feel like there's a part of me that's missing. Some days are better than others but, after two weeks of this... it's only gotten worse. Best of luck to you.
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