what can i say to dress up the fact that I don't....

[DateAnalyzer]

Have my own car? I do live in a nice neighborhood. nice apt, ok salary, no kids, attractive, drug free, never been to jail, i'm single and straight, andwell spoken. The lack of car thing has been hanging over my head for 8 years now. When I was growing up I never had any interest in learning how to drive or get my license, i guess i was a unusual teen. So when I got my learner's permit at 24, i started taking driving lessons but i couldn;t afford $70 and hour so I let 3 years go past and had to take the written test again. So I just retook the test and got my permit 2 saturdays ago and I have until 2010 to get my driver's license. I'm situated a lot better financially now than in 2001 and I believe I will have my license before i turn 33. So that's one of my biggest insecurities because so many females want to know right away-"DO YOU DRIVE? And I get so annoyed because i can drive and be "BISEXUAL" Why judge me on what I don;t have and working toward getting it? So should I just stop dating all together until i get my license and a car? This is always hanging over my head

[jcster]

There's no need to dress it up - it's just a fact of your life. People are going to like you for who you are, not what you have. You need to take pride in your life and stop trying to appear perfect to the outside world. It won't work and it appears dishonest.

[curiousnycgirl]

Well where do you live? If you live in Manhattan (NYC) then very few people have cars - it is prohibitively expensive to have and garage a car. Regardless one has to assume there is really good public transportation, that runs 24X7 near your house - otherwise you would get stuck a lot.

 

Therefore I would simply say it's not been a priority for you in the past but you'll probably be getting one soon.

 

If however public transportation near your house is bad then I'd say you are sort of screwed until you do get a car.

[DateAnalyzer]

Well where do you live? If you live in Manhattan (NYC) then very few people have cars - it is prohibitively expensive to have and garage a car. Regardless one has to assume there is really good public transportation, that runs 24X7 near your house - otherwise you would get stuck a lot.

 

Therefore I would simply say it's not been a priority for you in the past but you'll probably be getting one soon.

 

If however public transportation near your house is bad then I'd say you are sort of screwed until you do get a car.

 

 

I live in the manhattan section of philadelphia, and live 10 min from my job, walking distance. So i'm always in cabs because they run up my block 24 hours a day

[Krytellan]

That you're a public transporation enthusiast.

[Kamille]

What with the debates about car ownership running in Peace Pipe's thread, it is now officially Car Day on LS.

 

I lived in a metropolitan center and didn't have a car. I date guys who don't own or drive cars. If a potential date cares about car ownership so much that they walk away, i mean, drive away, it's their loss, not yours.

[Trialbyfire]

Haha...Kamille. I'm of the complete opposite belief. I don't date guys without cars but then, it's a hobby of mine, cars that is, well, maybe both...

[Kamille]

ooh then sorry DateAnalyser, in this case having TBF drive away would definitely be your loss. What can I say, I think any man would be honored to have her in the passenger seat! But wait TBF... Aren't you more the kind to sit behind the driver's seat?

 

Regardless, TBF made me recognize that you do have a problem DateAn. Perhaps you could focus on dating environmentalists? Join a bike club? Drive without a license?

[Trialbyfire]

Awww...Kamille..I'm flattered. I also like your attitude in life.

 

Yes, I do like to drive but won't give up the view of a capable man driving. It's just too sexy to resist.

[Star Gazer]

If I lived in NYC or SanFran, I could and would date a guy who didn't own a car. However, anywhere else, he'd have to have the skills and the vehicle.

 

That said, even if it were NYC or SF, I don't think I could date a guy who had never even gotten his driver's license.

[tanbark813]

"Having a car would certainly come in handy at times but to be honest I'm morally opposed to supporting the oil industry and, to a lesser extent, the auto industry. Plus I'm health conscious and I really take advantage of the extra exercize increased walking affords me. Lastly, the extra hours spent utilizing our city's fine public transportation gives me more of an opportunity to rub elbows with the common man."

 

[halfarock]

I spent years, as an engineer, developing mass transit systems. I’ve even lobbied and campaigned for mass transit. I’m a true believer in mass transportation. Between my bicycle, busses and the train (light rail), I can typically get around town just as easy, or even easier than if I drove my car. There is no parking to worry about or gas prices, insurance, up keep, or traffic cops. A little over a year ago I gave my car to my girlfriend when hers died. She likes to drive and I always let her. It is more fun that way.

 

During rush hour traffic, I just fly along as everyone else is sitting in their cars, their blood pressure rising.

 

My doctor always tells me that I’m in far better health than most people my age and that it can be attributed, in part, to the fact that I have always preferred my bicycle over my car. My girl friend, who doesn’t ride a bicycle, sometimes will make comments such as, “I don’t like riding bikes, but I sure like boys that do.”

 

 

 

No car, no problem.

[maynard]

if you live in the city and dont need a car, who cares? if a girl asks you what you drive, dont get sheepish and tell them the whole story. tell them you dont have a car and have no need for one

[KingCrimson]

Get a car and license first.

 

You're almost 33, how the **** do you not have a car and license yet?

 

And yes, I think it does represent a lot of other less superficial qualities. Are you lazy? Do you never travel or take roadtrips? Don't you enjoy going to (for example), the mountains to hike, ski, snowboard? Do you even enjoy any activities outside a 10 block radius of your apartment? Are you just dumb, poor, and in debt?

 

Being a college student, or recent grad who's JUST moved downtown to a major urban city, and not having a car is perfectly understandable. But being 33 and not even having a license? Comeone dude, man up, get a license, and buy a car. It's not that hard I bought a used 98 BMW 3 series from just 3 months working last summer during college break.

[dropdeadlegs]

I think Tanbark's answer was intelligent and covered the bases. Since I'm a bit "anti-establishment" and have a real problem with oil company profits in light of high gasoline prices, I think I would buy the answer.

 

I do not have access to public transportation in my area. There are two cab companies and the cabs are just regular cars. They don't have meters and I suppose the operators just decide upon a price based on time or mileage.

 

When I was in college I didn't have a car initially (I lived in another state) and I rode a bus to campus. I loved having time to read or study while commuting. The ride took a little longer with the bus stops along the way, but I didn't mind.

 

Car ownership is very expensive, even outside a huge metropolis like Manhattan. While I do not incur costs for garage fees, tolls, or parking meters; simple maintenance, insurance, and gasoline are pricey, and I don't have a monthly car payment.

 

I dated a man who didn't have a car and didn't find it all that inconvenient. I'm not sure, but I think he had let his license lapse, too.

 

Being in an area where you can travel from big city (Philly) to big city (NYC or DC) without having a car must be awesome, it simply wouldn't work for me in my area.

 

I would not consider your situation a reason not to date you, especially if I had a vehicle. Don't stop dating, just realize that every individual has there set of deal breakers and lack of car ownership may be high on the lists of many.

[DateAnalyzer]

Get a car and license first.

 

You're almost 33, how the **** do you not have a car and license yet?

 

And yes, I think it does represent a lot of other less superficial qualities. Are you lazy? Do you never travel or take roadtrips? Don't you enjoy going to (for example), the mountains to hike, ski, snowboard? Do you even enjoy any activities outside a 10 block radius of your apartment? Are you just dumb, poor, and in debt?

 

Being a college student, or recent grad who's JUST moved downtown to a major urban city, and not having a car is perfectly understandable. But being 33 and not even having a license? Comeone dude, man up, get a license, and buy a car. It's not that hard I bought a used 98 BMW 3 series from just 3 months working last summer during college break.

 

 

That's what I'm doing now, i was a late bloomer

[KingCrimson]

"Having a car would certainly come in handy at times but to be honest I'm morally opposed to supporting the oil industry and, to a lesser extent, the auto industry. Plus I'm health conscious and I really take advantage of the extra exercize increased walking affords me. Lastly, the extra hours spent utilizing our city's fine public transportation gives me more of an opportunity to rub elbows with the common man."

 

 

Translation:

 

I'm going to restrict my happiness and rally against prosperity because I'm ignorant and will blindly hate any and all industries and corporations. I like to waste time, and I'm riddled with guilt because I'm not a "common" man.

 

 

If any woman said that to me, I'd call her a retard, debate her for a bit, then never talk to her. Then speed off in my premium gas European sports car, while mocking the silly people waiting for the buss.

[tanbark813]

Translation:

 

I'm going to restrict my happiness and rally against prosperity because I'm ignorant and will blindly hate any and all industries and corporations. I like to waste time, and I'm riddled with guilt because I'm not a "common" man.

 

 

If any woman said that to me, I'd call her a retard, debate her for a bit, then never talk to her. Then speed off in my premium gas European sports car, while mocking the silly people waiting for the buss.

 

It was a joke, dude.

[Kamille]

Translation:

 

I'm going to restrict my happiness and rally against prosperity because I'm ignorant and will blindly hate any and all industries and corporations. I like to waste time, and I'm riddled with guilt because I'm not a "common" man.

 

 

If any woman said that to me, I'd call her a retard, debate her for a bit, then never talk to her. Then speed off in my premium gas European sports car, while mocking the silly people waiting for the buss.

 

I do own a car but I choose not to use it most days because I have the privilege of being able to walk to work. I watch the traffic reports in the morning and mock the people stuck in gridlock in their premium gas European sports car.

[dropdeadlegs]

I do own a car but I choose not to use it most days because I have the privilege of being able to walk to work. I watch the traffic reports in the morning and mock the people stuck in gridlock in their premium gas European sports car.

 

hehe

 

SOME people actually care about the Earth's natural resources, the air quality, and the effects of global warming (some of which are caused by exhaust fumes.)

 

Unfortunately my community doesn't seem very gung ho about conservation or recycling in general.

 

Still, in a big city like Philly, I can't see not owning a car as a big problem or dating deterrent. Then again, I'm not impressed with a person's possessions and I don't have lofty goals in life. I just want to be happy, and for some happiness involves lots of success and possessions. I plan to disencumber myself from many of the possessions I have now very soon. I will be moving soon, and that is when I determine what I REALLY need in life, and I don't need a lot of this crap surrounding me right now.

 

That being said, I will be keeping my regular gas, banged up, 12 year old, 4 cyl. Japanese import.

[uniqueone]

Where I live everyone drives and has at LEAST one car so this is unusual to me. But it doesn't seem unusual for where you live.

 

I would tell them that you're into environmentalism. In fact, maybe read up on it and become better informed about it.

 

Either that or you can tell them that since you don't have a car, they can go ahead and get fat and you'll call it even......

(oops, wrong thread.......)

[jcster]

If any woman said that to me, I'd call her a retard, debate her for a bit, then never talk to her. Then speed off in my premium gas European sports car, while mocking the silly people waiting for the buss.

 

You use that term a lot! Is there something we should know?

[amber1]

Yeah, I'd say you probably want to hurry up and get that license...

 

Not to sound like a b*tch, but to be honest, I just think you are going to have problems with dating until you get one (unless like ppl stated earlier you live in NYC or where not many ppl drive at all). I guess I would just hurry up and get your license and then date so you won't have to sugarcoat anything.

[Ruby]

just buy a combine harvester!