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If someone is UNEMPLOYED, should they be on a Dating Site looking for love?

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Cobra_X30

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I gave up on HOT long ago. I'd be happy with sane and has a driver's liscense. ;):bunny:

 

 

:eek: Your not supposed to admit you have low standards!

 

Ok, well maybe on the third date!

burning 4 revenge Established Member

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I wonder what else a woman would overlook if a guy is HOT

 

A criminal past?

Bisexual?

No car?

most professional women would be willing to take care of a guy who is hot, under thirty and can shag even if they are bi-sexual cocaine dealers

annabelle75 Established Member

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:eek: Your not supposed to admit you have low standards!

 

Ok, well maybe on the third date!

 

Maybe that's what I am doing wrong? Maybe I shouldn't be telling guys I put out on the first date either? Darn ... why didn't some one tell me this sooner?

 

:bunny::bunny::bunny:

Cobra_X30

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Maybe that's what I am doing wrong? Maybe I shouldn't be telling guys I put out on the first date either? Darn ... why didn't some one tell me this sooner?

 

:bunny::bunny::bunny:

 

 

I think your probably doing that one right! Put out on the 1st, your more likely to get a 2nd date. :cool:

peace_pipe Established Member

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most professional women would be willing to take care of a guy who is hot, under thirty and can shag even if they are bi-sexual cocaine dealers

 

Yes. I have seen it with my own eyes professional or not.

peace_pipe Established Member

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I wonder what else a woman would overlook if a guy is HOT

 

A criminal past?

Bisexual?

No car?

 

At least...........

peace_pipe Established Member

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I gave up on HOT long ago. I'd be happy with sane and has a driver's liscense. ;):bunny:

 

Not me, I am still searching for HOT and intelligent.

 

I am a damn fool, I know...

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DateAnalyzer Established Member

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Not me, I am still searching for HOT and intelligent.

 

I am a damn fool, I know...

 

 

well if he is that HOT, he may have 25 other girls

LoveLace Established Member

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On the surface, yea thats unattractive for someone dating to not have a job; then again, the story behind it could be simple -- just between jobs for a short time due to quitting and finding a new one; or maybe they are a full-time student. Maybe a stay-at-home mom that gets plenty of $ from the Ex. Other than that, good excuses are hard to come by.

amber1 Established Member

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Well I am unemployed right now but actively looking for a job (in the interview process with a couple of companies)....guess I'm undateable! :laugh:

TerryTeardrop Established Member

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I would rather date someone unemployed than date analyer lol

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DateAnalyzer Established Member

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I would rather date someone unemployed than date analyer lol

 

 

Date Analyzer can give you that queen treatment

TerryTeardrop Established Member

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For tv and foreplay in ya underwear? lol

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DateAnalyzer Established Member

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For tv and foreplay in ya underwear? lol

 

 

LOL-good one

jerbear Established Member

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There are alphawomen out there who will be more than happy to have househusbands. I do agree that there is a double standard on the gender when it comes to employment status.

 

I would date a unemployed girl who is looking for love. It depends on the situation and the whole package. Some college students are unemployed and be on a dating site. They're really not unemployed or are they?

 

Would I turn down a good catch and take time to know more about her, knowing that her situation is temporary? Not bloody likely. She could be working on her business plan and be in phase 1.

 

Now if the woman was unemployed and wants a husband for financial support well she is not for me. However there are guys out there who might be up for it.

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There are alphawomen out there who will be more than happy to have househusbands. I do agree that there is a double standard on the gender when it comes to employment status.

 

I would date a unemployed girl who is looking for love. It depends on the situation and the whole package. Some college students are unemployed and be on a dating site. They're really not unemployed or are they?

 

Would I turn down a good catch and take time to know more about her, knowing that her situation is temporary? Not bloody likely. She could be working on her business plan and be in phase 1.

 

Now if the woman was unemployed and wants a husband for financial support well she is not for me. However there are guys out there who might be up for it.

 

 

Well I'm not referring to college students, I'm talking about women who is in their late 20s and older. Of course it wouldn't be a big deal in college

huh Established Member

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Don't think I'd mind dating someone who was unemployed as long as they were seriously looking for something and wanted to work. People can be made redundant for all sorts of reasons. Why shouldn't someone who is out of work (and luck) not want a partner as well as a job? It can be socially isolating being out of work so trying to keep dating is surely a good thing and shows a determination to keep positive and involved in life. And anyway ... having a job doesn't necessarily make someone a fantastic mate, just as not having one doesn't make them boring, terrible partner material etc.

 

Well said, you saved me some keystrokes. Back when I was online dating, 2 of the guys I met via online dating were unemployed. One was actively looking & I rescheduled a date to help him out with a commuter rail pass (we both live outside of Manhattan). He was a good date & if there'd been a mutual attraction (he just wanted to be friends) I would've considered a relationship. Guy 2 asked me all sorts of questions about my housing & car situation/payments. On a FIRST date. Needless to say, I heeded the red flags & there wasn't a 2nd date.

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I have come across so many unemployed females this year and I really feel that if someone is not working, they should not be looking for a mate because their energy is supposed to be toward finding a job. That is one of the most unattractive things about a person when just meeting them to find out they have no job. When I was laid off the last thing that was on my mind was looking for a WOMAn to date, i was looking for a JOB so i could maintain my independence. Who agrees?

 

I don't, I think this is a ridiculous attitude. Now if you are talking about someone who has been unemployed for years and is on welfare etc, obviously that is going to put off a lot of people. But I don't see why someone who quit, or moved away, or got fired, or just decided to take some time off, should be expected to have no love life.

 

If you don't like it then fine, avoid unemployed people. But it's silly to expect other people to live their lives a certain way just because that's what you prefer.

 

I also find it amusing that you say you want a job to maintain your independence. By definition, being employed is a *lack* of independence. For 8 hours or more per day, you are at the beck & call of another person. That's dependency and wage slavery, not freedom. An unemployed person with several hundred thousand or more in the bank is more independent than most working people.

allina Established Member

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The kind of unemployed that sits on their a$$ all day is a huge turn off, especially when they have zero ambition.

 

However I think you're still in your 20's (I may be wrong) if I am correct then many women your age are probably in college or grad school in which case I think they are great date candidates.

Mezzi Established Member

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The only thing an employed man should be looking for is a job.

Of course, he may be seeking earnings through a relationship that may start via the web. LOL

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Being in college != unemployed. Most people don't consider students "unemployed". You're going to university for that sole purpose - to help you get a good job.

 

I'm in college myself, and in my case when looking for someone my age - whether online or REAL LIFE - my requirement is they must be in college, and that too at a four year university.

 

Why? I need someone I can respect educationally and intellectually too. And you know when I'm married and old someday, I don't want a wife who sits at home all day, or is stuck doing some blue collar or unprofessional labor. So I suppose in a year when I graduate, my standards will be even higher than unemployed... they need to be a working professional, ambitious, and smart as hell.

dropdeadlegs Established Member

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There could be a variety of reasons why a woman (or man) is unemployed, as well as a variety of financial situations that could afford one to be unemployed. I haven't worked in nearly two years, yet I have my own home and pay my own bills . I am fortunate to have a situation that allows me the freedom to be a full time homemaker and mother to my children. I am in a relationship, but we do not live together.

 

Do I LIKE to work? Not really, but I don't know many people that would say they really like to work and know many who say they have to work. However, I have been employed for much of my life since the age of 14 and consider myself an exemplary employee. What I don't do well is juggle all the responsibilities of being an employee, a homemaker, and a single mother (father is deceased) to young children. Many jobs that would afford me the opportunity to volunteer time at my children's elementary school and allow them to participate in sports or extra-curricular activities would require me to work weekends and/or evenings. Try to find childcare services at those hours!

 

In short, I wouldn't preclude a dating prospect without all the details of her unemployment.

 

Yes, there are women looking for someone to take care of them, but there are also men who are looking for a woman willing to put her career aside and make family and home her top priority. In other words there is someone for everyone. :):)

 

People are varied, and if unemployment is a deal breaker for you, don't consider unemployed women. Just keep in mind that her deal breaker may be not owning a car (which I will address on your other thread.)

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There could be a variety of reasons why a woman (or man) is unemployed, as well as a variety of financial situations that could afford one to be unemployed. I haven't worked in nearly two years, yet I have my own home and pay my own bills . I am fortunate to have a situation that allows me the freedom to be a full time homemaker and mother to my children. I am in a relationship, but we do not live together.

 

Do I LIKE to work? Not really, but I don't know many people that would say they really like to work and know many who say they have to work. However, I have been employed for much of my life since the age of 14 and consider myself an exemplary employee. What I don't do well is juggle all the responsibilities of being an employee, a homemaker, and a single mother (father is deceased) to young children. Many jobs that would afford me the opportunity to volunteer time at my children's elementary school and allow them to participate in sports or extra-curricular activities would require me to work weekends and/or evenings. Try to find childcare services at those hours!

 

In short, I wouldn't preclude a dating prospect without all the details of her unemployment.

 

Yes, there are women looking for someone to take care of them, but there are also men who are looking for a woman willing to put her career aside and make family and home her top priority. In other words there is someone for everyone. :):)

 

People are varied, and if unemployment is a deal breaker for you, don't consider unemployed women. Just keep in mind that her deal breaker may be not owning a car (which I will address on your other thread.)

 

 

I don't think it's so much them being unemployed, i think it's the statement they make when they found out what I do for a living. I say I'm a career advisor and they say-"Can you find me a job? That is so not sexy and it's a huge turnoff

dropdeadlegs Established Member

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I don't think it's so much them being unemployed, i think it's the statement they make when they found out what I do for a living. I say I'm a career advisor and they say-"Can you find me a job? That is so not sexy and it's a huge turnoff

I agree that asking for assistance with employment on a first date, or early on in getting to know one another, sounds a lot like "what can you do for ME?" It's in bad taste to expect anything of that nature. It would be like dating a dentist and expecting a free oral exam or dating a hairdresser and asking for a complimentary haircut.

 

Funny how some people just don't get it that having connections doesn't mean you should use, or abuse, those connections.

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DateAnalyzer Established Member

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I agree that asking for assistance with employment on a first date, or early on in getting to know one another, sounds a lot like "what can you do for ME?" It's in bad taste to expect anything of that nature. It would be like dating a dentist and expecting a free oral exam or dating a hairdresser and asking for a complimentary haircut.

 

Funny how some people just don't get it that having connections doesn't mean you should use, or abuse, those connections.

 

 

And again, in this society, it's supposed to be accepted because it's a woman saying it and not a man. But if a man was unemployed and found out his date was a employment advisor and asked the same thing, you would be considered a loser

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