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DateAnalyzer Established Member

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I have come across so many unemployed females this year and I really feel that if someone is not working, they should not be looking for a mate because their energy is supposed to be toward finding a job. That is one of the most unattractive things about a person when just meeting them to find out they have no job. When I was laid off the last thing that was on my mind was looking for a WOMAn to date, i was looking for a JOB so i could maintain my independence. Who agrees?

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Personally I don't think I would be in the right frame of mind to date if I were unemployed.

 

Having said that I think people who can are lucky! Why not continue to look for "the one" while unemployed?

Enema Established Member

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The sexist cynic in me says that those women are sometimes looking for someone to take care of them.

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The sexist cynic in me says that those women are sometimes looking for someone to take care of them.

 

 

That's probably true to

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Do you choose your future mates by thier jobs? Perhaps to make the dating process easier you should ask for resumes up front?

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When I was laid off the last thing that was on my mind was looking for a WOMAn to date, i was looking for a JOB so i could maintain my independence. Who agrees?

 

I don't know. There are people with no personal life, social skills, or dating sense on dating sites, so why not? *cough* >.> :p

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I'm going to have to agree...

But I think men have more societal pressures to be employed than women. The same goes for the moving out thing.

 

If I were to go on a date with a woman right now if unemployed and she asked me, so what do you do?...I um..am job hunting!

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I'm going to have to agree...

But I think men have more societal pressures to be employed than women. The same goes for the moving out thing.

 

If I were to go on a date with a woman right now if unemployed and she asked me, so what do you do?...I um..am job hunting!

 

 

Well I can PLAY with a unemployed woman but not label her a girlfriend. I hate when i tell a woman I'm a career advisor for a living and she then says-"Can you find me a job? That is such a huge turn off

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Do you choose your future mates by thier jobs? Perhaps to make the dating process easier you should ask for resumes up front?

 

 

I don't choose mates by their job but I'm not interested in dating a female who is a sandwich girl at Subway or a cashier at Rite Aid

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so don't then.

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DateAnalyzer Established Member

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so don't then.

 

I never did, i was just seeing if anyone else is able to overlook someone not having a job

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Don't think I'd mind dating someone who was unemployed as long as they were seriously looking for something and wanted to work. People can be made redundant for all sorts of reasons. Why shouldn't someone who is out of work (and luck) not want a partner as well as a job? It can be socially isolating being out of work so trying to keep dating is surely a good thing and shows a determination to keep positive and involved in life. And anyway ... having a job doesn't necessarily make someone a fantastic mate, just as not having one doesn't make them boring, terrible partner material etc.

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I never did, i was just seeing if anyone else is able to overlook someone not having a job

 

i would prefer they had one of course but i would not overlook one because they didn't.

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I have come across so many unemployed females this year and I really feel that if someone is not working, they should not be looking for a mate because their energy is supposed to be toward finding a job. That is one of the most unattractive things about a person when just meeting them to find out they have no job. When I was laid off the last thing that was on my mind was looking for a WOMAn to date, i was looking for a JOB so i could maintain my independence. Who agrees?

 

If a person is unemployed they have a right to date, but they should be honest about their employment situation.

 

You're not gonna get honesty from a dating site. Every girl I have met from online has been totally different than her profile suggests.

 

Many of the women on dating sites are married, already dating others and / or unemployed. They usually aren't forthcoming on their profile.

 

I get off on the fact that my online profile makes me look good but it is totally accurate, I don't have to lie!

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Didn't you already ask this question a few weeks ago??

 

Women can muti-task. Why do you think it's impossible to look for a job and look for love at the same time? It's not like she wouldn't have plenty of time to do both if she's not working.

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Women can muti-task. Why do you think it's impossible to look for a job and look for love at the same time? It's not like she wouldn't have plenty of time to do both if she's not working.

 

I think there's often a double standard when it comes down to this.

It's ok for women to do this, multi-task if you call it. But if a guy tries to do this the woman doesnt take him seriously enough to bother going on a date...the only thing going through her mind is "oh he's unemployed."

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I think there's often a double standard when it comes down to this.

It's ok for women to do this, multi-task if you call it. But if a guy tries to do this the woman doesnt take him seriously enough to bother going on a date.

 

I would have to disagree - partly.

 

I know many women who could care less about a man's employment status or even his criminal history. As long as the guy is "hot" it will be okay with her, at least for a while.

 

No women will ever admit this, but their action/behavior speaks volumes...

 

there's your proof.

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I don't see a problem with a person dating while they are looking for work. I'v ebeen laid off before which was very depressing. Keeping up with my active social life made it sting a little less.

 

On the other hand, when my brother use to date girls that had no jobs and were living off of goverment assistance and child support checks from their babies daddy's, I would feel nausious. It wasn't that they didn't have jobs necessarily but how they chose to live their lives that I found offensive.

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I don't know. There are people with no personal life, social skills, or dating sense on dating sites, so why not? *cough* >.> :p

 

Don't be so hard on yourself, K! :p

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I don't see a problem with a person dating while they are looking for work. I'v ebeen laid off before which was very depressing. Keeping up with my active social life made it sting a little less.

 

On the other hand, when my brother use to date girls that had no jobs and were living off of goverment assistance and child support checks from their babies daddy's, I would feel nausious. It wasn't that they didn't have jobs necessarily but how they chose to live their lives that I found offensive.

 

I'm jumping between jobs also since I temp usually and i just returned from vacation...i dont think the dating scene is fit for me right now...

 

That reminds me of ex fwb, she literally lives off her dad's bank account. And she's never worked a day in her life...I dont know why but the day she told me she was raised in a house with a maid cook...well that did it for me! :sick: But I think the worst part about it was she felt no remorse, nor did she have a desire to change the situation either...

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I would have to disagree - partly.

 

I know many women who could care less about a man's employment status or even his criminal history. As long as the guy is "hot" it will be okay with her, at least for a while.

 

No women will ever admit this, but their action/behavior speaks volumes...

 

there's your proof.

 

 

As long as he is HOT???????? That is the strangest thing I heard in 2007

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On the other hand, when my brother use to date girls that had no jobs and were living off of goverment assistance and child support checks from their babies daddy's, I would feel nausious. It wasn't that they didn't have jobs necessarily but how they chose to live their lives that I found offensive.

 

i totally agree with you, but according to the posts on this thread, many other women disagree:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t127399/

 

Apparently some people think these things have do relevance to a person's behavior.

 

I am WOWed

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As long as he is HOT???????? That is the strangest thing I heard in 2007

 

Of course it is the strangest thing you have heard. No women will ever admit to it.

 

You / they don't have to, just take a look around.

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Of course it is the strangest thing you have heard. No women will ever admit to it.

 

You / they don't have to, just take a look around.

 

 

I wonder what else a woman would overlook if a guy is HOT

 

A criminal past?

Bisexual?

No car?

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I wonder what else a woman would overlook if a guy is HOT

 

A criminal past?

Bisexual?

No car?

 

I gave up on HOT long ago. I'd be happy with sane and has a driver's liscense. ;):bunny:

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