cr8sea Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 I was talking to a friend last nite. He tells me that in order for a relationship to work women shouldnt sleep with men until about four months after you start dating. Otherwise men will get this crazy thing in their heads where they, once get sex, feel that they have to be committed, freak out and leave. That ofcourse most men wont do this rigth away but wait maybe three weeks to bail. the first week is great, still on that sex high, second week its ok....third week they start to realize woman in question want a relationship and all that comes with it and freak out. Is this true? Do guys freak out after they get what they want? i honestly feel id be more insecure making the guy hold off bc then i cant help but think he's in it to see if he can get it...once he gets it the thrill of the chase is over, and so will be his interest.... I dont put out right away either....in my current relationship i waited a month before i slept with him. He hasnt bailed so far and we're going on two and a half months...and doesnt seem to be losing interest either.... Do you guys think this theory holds for most men or not?
KingCrimson Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 What if you're a guy and you want a relationship Don't stereotype all of us males, kthx
Zona76 Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Stereo Type? Guys goal is getting laid. He can't get it he moves on...she puts out he moves on. They don't have the maturity to think more than that. A relationship is when you're old enough and settled in your life to consider something permanent. Permanent as in forever. If you're young and in school don't for one moment think sex is mandatory. It's overrated. When you reach a certain age in life your body changes as well as your thoughts and your mind.
Balalaika Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 If it's the right person and it's meant to be, ultimately it wont matter when you first get it on. People have one night stands or sex on their first date and end up being together for years or for life, or it goes absolutely nowhere. People wait, have sex and it's all over not long afterwards, or they end up together for years or for life. There's no right and wrong.
lino Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 If it's the right person and it's meant to be, ultimately it wont matter when you first get it on. People have one night stands or sex on their first date and end up being together for years or for life, or it goes absolutely nowhere. People wait, have sex and it's all over not long afterwards, or they end up together for years or for life. There's no right and wrong. I agree with this. Also, if I was regularly seeing a girl and I knew we were both into each other, her making me wait 4 months for no reason would be a massive turn off. I think you just need to go with your gut with this issue.
jcster Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 If I was really interested in a guy, there's no way that I could wait 4 months to have sex with him. I'm way too much of a horn-dog to play that type of waiting game.
StayClose Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 The theory is wrong. Having sex does not make guys freak out. What waiting a month or more will do is weed out the guys who want sex but no relationship. But four moths is too long. If you insist on waiting four months you'll also lose the interest of relationship-minded guys who will assume you have too low a libido or sexual hangups. If you want sex but no relationship, have sex whenever you want. If you don't want sex without a relaionship, then it's best to wait 3-6 weeks (to weed out the players), but not longer than that..
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