Krytellan Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Actually, it will be a 4th date by the time it happens... OK, so fourth date I have a day of canoeing planned by the gorge. First couple have been really good and we have enjoyed the time together. My question stems from the fact that because I work so freakin much, I have had to juggle my time and almost always have somewhere to be both at night and the subsequent morning. This has placed many constrictions on my "windows of availability". If I go to a dinner date or happy hour during the week, I get 2 hours of sleep if I'm lucky. I was originally planning Sunday for logistical reasons and because I had something else tentatively planned for Saturday night. However, I was also thinking it would be nice to be able to hang out with her and not have this "gotta go to bed early to get ready for another week of working Hell" feeling in my mind. I would be happy to forego the Saturday plans to move the canoeing to Saturday and have as long as we need... which leads me to the question... Is it a bad idea to make arrangements for things to extend into the evening/night or should I just leave it to a day thing without the possibility of more? Am I thinking too much and should just do it without being a baby? That's what I'm guessing. Yeah, I know my answer, but hey, feel free to rag on me or whatever... I'm used to it. See how therapeutic you all are? Thanks!
nicki Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Sounds like YOU would have more fun and be more relaxed on Saturday. That's a good reason to change the plans in and of itself. Ask her if she can do it on Saturday instead. Then see where it all goes. If it feels right, you two might spend all day Saturday together and Saturday night, too. (Physical activities can ramp up one's sex drive!) One thing. Just from a girl's perspective, if you do end up extending the date and she might need a change of clothes, let her know in advance so she can pack something to bring with her. Explain to her that she can shower and change at your place before going out to dinner, and that you will give her plenty of space and privacy to do that. Or have her go home to "freshen up" and pick her up later. Have fun and post details!
Tony T Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 This won't be very comforting but most women will sense that you really don't have much time for them. In a dating situation, ladies want to feel important and that you are available to spend quality time with them. They don't like to feel they are being "juggled" with other time requirements and more important commitments in your life. If I were you, I would sit down and rework my entire schedule to accommodate more flexibility. You have to decide in this one life you will ever live exactly what priorities do you want to have. I give you my word, there are very few women in the world who will go along with these kinds of time constraints for a long time.
Author Krytellan Posted August 14, 2007 Author Posted August 14, 2007 Thanks nicki, great idea. It's kinda that juggle between not wanting someone to feel "roped in" for a whole day and evening unless they want to be. I'll toss it out the evening as a possibility and let her prepare to her content. If I were you, I would sit down and rework my entire schedule to accommodate more flexibility. You have to decide in this one life you will ever live exactly what priorities do you want to have. I give you my word, there are very few women in the world who will go along with these kinds of time constraints for a long time. Very astute observation. I decided to work so much after my break-up because I could and because of my ex-wife and the divorce. However, since I made the decision, my personal life has somewhat exploded and I'm now finding myself at a crossroads. I have already arranged with my second job to remove at least my Friday shift, which would provide a great relief. I will have the option to shave off more after I get a sense of where I stand after that. Thanks for the recommendation, and she has no idea that I work so much yet.
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