discoverychannel Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Hey all. my 1.5 years ex and i broke up for 10 months now. He was my first love. Breaking up hurt a lot more than I thought... wasn't a sharp stab kind of pain for me, but slow, and mentally and emotionally torturing. he hooked up with his female best friend and officially dated a month and a half after our break up. It was pretty upsetting i dont understand how he can get over me so fast while i am still in the ash of our relationship. I'm 10 months into the aftermath now. Sometimes I miss him and I think about our past and everything that happened. But in general i am rational and am very happy with my single life right now. What makes it hard though is that I sometimes dream of us getting back together just to realize he is in love with someone else. getting over him would be SOO much easier if I didn't have to wake up from those dreams just to start my day feeling hurt. I think I am doing pretty good other than that... I try to focus on myself and my life. I think i am in the transition process of being over him. I can imagine loving someone else and am loving my life and focusing on myself, but at the same time i feel hurt at prospect of seeing him agn and still think about him sometimes...atleast once a day. I know that people say the memories will never disappear and there will always be a bit of bagage there....it's been 10 months already this is my first break up ever so I don't really know what is getting over someone or what to expect. I am beginning to realize that it is impossible to completely forget the feelings and memories. does being scared of seeing him agn mean im not over him? or is it something i'll always feel uncomfortable about?? Thanks so much for reading btw!!
AriaIncognito Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 My short reply would be, if you have to ask if you're over someone, you're not over them.
Ssheena Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 That was my first thought too. If you have to ask, you aren't. That is, however, totally OK. There is no written in stone time frame for people to be over their loved ones. The magic 8 ball says.... ask again in another 10 months if you are over him.
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