solo_flyer Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Do you think it's an OK idea to send flowers (anonymously) to a female co-worker because I think she'd just be happy to receive them? I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship with this person. I'm only thinking of doing this because one time someone else at the office (with the same first name as her) received flowers from her bf, but woman #1 initially thought the flowers were for her! She was so incredibly disappointed that I felt so badly for her. That's why it occurred to me. Would this just get her all excited for nothing? Or is it a decent idea to brighten someone's day?
Tony T Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Do you think it's an OK idea to send flowers (anonymously) to a female co-worker because I think she'd just be happy to receive them? I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship with this person. I'm only thinking of doing this because one time someone else at the office (with the same first name as her) received flowers from her bf, but woman #1 initially thought the flowers were for her! She was so incredibly disappointed that I felt so badly for her. That's why it occurred to me. Would this just get her all excited for nothing? Or is it a decent idea to brighten someone's day? It's a nice thought to brighten someone's day but don't send flowers to do it. Just smile at her and wish her a happy day!
Trialbyfire Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 What a sweet idea although this would only be a good idea if there's a group of you doing it, or the flowers come from a female coworker. When flowers come from a male coworker, the assumption is that there's romantic interest involved. Once again, nice thought.
Sweetcheripie Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Oh my gosh!!! This is SO sweet! I think it would be incredibly sweet and mysterious to send the flowers anonymously!!!!! I would just make sure that the florist quaranteed they would not reveal the source and just send them from a secret admirerer. I can tell you - it would totally make her day and would deliver you awesome karma!!!! I just need to say that your post just brightens my world. As a woman, single mom, who never ever received flowers for 10 year while raising my kids alone etc if anyone had sent me flowers it would have made me cry with joy - seriously......the first person to send me flowers recently was my 16 year olds girlfriend - and I weeped because it was such a sweet gesture.
LN99 Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Although it would be a sweet gesture as a friend, she could probably take it the wrong way if they were sent from you. If you pretended to be an admiror, it might make her more fustrated to receive such a gift w/ no follow up. Plus she will probably constantly wonder who it is. She could end up being disappointed in the long run. If you want to send her flowers, do it. But make sure you tell her who it is from and make it very clear that they were meant out of friendship and that you wanted to do something special for a good friend. I'm sure she will appreciate this friendly gesture.
Shades of Grey Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 I think it's an absolutely lovely gesture. If they are sent completely anonomously where is the harm? like LN99 said I'd be careful to ensure that the note doesn't indicate a secret admiror who has an interest in her but keep it friendly. How sweet :-)
Road Rage Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 solo flyer The question is do you have ANY romantic notions with this woman? Because if you do, I wouldn`t send them anonomously. Here`s why....someone else will invariably get credit for it and you will have struck out. If you are interested in her send the damn flowers and take the rap. But, if you really know she is not for you then send them anonomously and let her dream on. But she will probably think it is her married boss and before you know it she will be posting in the OW forum:laugh:
DoomFlake Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 I wouldn't do it. A few years ago a couple of my friends felt sorry for an acquaintance and anonymously sent her flowers at work. She was kind of lonely and they thought it would give her confidence. WRONG! She became obsessed with whomever sent her the flowers and got really depressed when nothing else happened. Just please think twice.
Author solo_flyer Posted August 15, 2007 Author Posted August 15, 2007 The question is do you have ANY romantic notions with this woman? Because if you do, I wouldn`t send them anonomously. Here`s why....someone else will invariably get credit for it and you will have struck out. If you are interested in her send the damn flowers and take the rap. But, if you really know she is not for you then send them anonomously and let her dream on. But she will probably think it is her married boss and before you know it she will be posting in the OW forum:laugh: Very wise info here. Thank you! I am DEFINITELY not interested in her (for various reasons) though I am definitely sure she was interested in me when she started at this company. Probably not so much anymore though. This complicates things, so perhaps it's not such a good idea anymore.
BlueEyedSarah Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 Do you think it's an OK idea to send flowers (anonymously) to a female co-worker because I think she'd just be happy to receive them? I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship with this person. I'm only thinking of doing this because one time someone else at the office (with the same first name as her) received flowers from her bf, but woman #1 initially thought the flowers were for her! She was so incredibly disappointed that I felt so badly for her. That's why it occurred to me. Would this just get her all excited for nothing? Or is it a decent idea to brighten someone's day? I think its very kind of you to want to send her flowers to want to brighten up her day, but I don't think it would be a good idea, even if you do send them annonymously, she will be wondering who sent them and getting her excited that someone may have a crush on her. If she does find out it was you then she may try persue something with you and your not intrested, it would have given her mixed signals. I think its best to find another way to brighten up her day like take her a drink of coffee to her desk or her fave drink and have a friendly chit chat with her.
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted August 15, 2007 Posted August 15, 2007 Do you think it's an OK idea to send flowers (anonymously) to a female co-worker because I think she'd just be happy to receive them? I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship with this person. I'm only thinking of doing this because one time someone else at the office (with the same first name as her) received flowers from her bf, but woman #1 initially thought the flowers were for her! She was so incredibly disappointed that I felt so badly for her. That's why it occurred to me. Would this just get her all excited for nothing? Or is it a decent idea to brighten someone's day? I think it's a lovely idea....but....if i were to recieve flowers at work....which is a very romantic guesture....i'd get my hopes up about meeting the romantic mystery guy who sent them....and then when he doesn't appear....i'd probably feel worse off than i felt before that i've missed out on some romantic guy because he isn't interested anymore. Then if i were to find out someone sent them even though they werent interested in me...i'd feel as though they were pity flowers and feel pathetic. A lovely idea but it comes with some poo consequences.
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