kitty99b Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 A couple of weeks ago I went to a town 3hrs away to visit some friends and since I knew this guy who lived there (we kinda dated in the past) I decided to call him up. HE was glad to hear from me and made plans to hang out that day. HE even called to say he was going to get ready and be on his way but he never showed or called or picked up!! ANyways...I left a not-so-nice message telling him how wrong that was and how disrespected I felt and also emailed just to get my point across! that was then...now three weeks later I put new pics (from a photoshoot) on my web page and he writes me and calls me!! he says he wants to drive to my town to see me (3hrs away) tomorrow...when I asked what happened that he blew me off he said "it just didnt feel right" and will change the subject..he even asked if I had dreamed of him lately because apparently he has been "dreaming of making love to me"..I am just really confused here..is he coming after me because he saw my new pics? and why is he talking about making love if we are not even in a relationship??...I just don't know if he is being true and really just want to me with me or if he is only trying to sleep/hurt me..although if that were the case then why not sleep with a woman who lived closer?..considering our "weird" past I can only wonder...any help will be great
bluepoppy Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Hate to say this, but people don't change. He's playing games with you. By standing you up he's put you in a spot that if you do go out with him after that, he knows you put up with bull**** if the appology sounds good enough. In a way, he's testing how far he can push you before (I suspect) he uses you. My suggestion would be to say you're busy that day that he's suggested, be nice, but not available. If he really is that into you, he'll ask to see you a different day that you have available at some point in the future. He'd wait. As it's 3 hours away starting something would be a lot of effort, is that what you want ?
lino Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 If I was him I wouldn't be expecting another chance.
Yellowboy Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 That's just terrible. I had a date planned with this girl, she was the one that took the initiative (for a change) and when the day came nothing happened. Man, the least I ask for in a girl, or even a person, is some common freakin' courtesy, jesus. Of course, she never got a second chance.
Author kitty99b Posted August 14, 2007 Author Posted August 14, 2007 Hate to say this, but people don't change. He's playing games with you. By standing you up he's put you in a spot that if you do go out with him after that, he knows you put up with bull**** if the appology sounds good enough. In a way, he's testing how far he can push you before (I suspect) he uses you. My suggestion would be to say you're busy that day that he's suggested, be nice, but not available. If he really is that into you, he'll ask to see you a different day that you have available at some point in the future. He'd wait. As it's 3 hours away starting something would be a lot of effort, is that what you want ? you were right. HE called me last night to say that he wouldn't be coming at all today but he wanted me to drive over there to see him!! I should have seen it coming. What I don't understand is why does he keep coming after me? Why wont he just leave me alone if he doesnt want anything serious with me?
Author kitty99b Posted August 14, 2007 Author Posted August 14, 2007 If I was him I wouldn't be expecting another chance. the problem is that I've given him too many chances so I guess he thinks I will forever be granting him chances no matter what he does...but I can't do that anymore, it's not healthy and it hurts me so much everytime.
Author kitty99b Posted August 14, 2007 Author Posted August 14, 2007 That's just terrible. I had a date planned with this girl, she was the one that took the initiative (for a change) and when the day came nothing happened. Man, the least I ask for in a girl, or even a person, is some common freakin' courtesy, jesus. Of course, she never got a second chance. that was wrong of her. I dont know why people keep doing that. make plans and then don't follow through..what is the point in making the plans anyways?
lino Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Yeah I hate that too. Best to forget him or if you decide to still have anything to do with him make it clear you want it 100% your way. If he doesn't like it too bad.
bluepoppy Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Sorry to hear he let you down (again) - I guess he keeps coming back because he knows he can. There is prob some kind of spark there, and he does find you attractive but not enough to start something serious. It's a shame he can't treat you better. But that is his problem Still there are plenty of other guys who know how to treat girls better.
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