Cat_Eyes Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 My bf has issues with gfs pasts. His ideal girl would have to be a virgin...that has never even been kissed before. Unfortunately he doesn't realize that that's hard to find these days, maybe in the 1800s but not now. I'm a virgin, but I've done things in the past with my ex's. I feel like he doesn't even appreciate how lucky he is to have a virgin, its sooo annoying sometimes. Anyways, he has a huuuge problem with me doing things with people that i didn't love. Mind you, he has had gfs in the past and hes done it all, BUT he never loved them either. He admits to having a double standard, but I hate that and I try to make him understand but it doesn't work. We always have fights over this, and it always upsets me. Does anyone else have this problem? or have you heard of this before b/c i never have.
J.LO Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I've been through this before, as well as a couple friends of mine. I find some people are only caring about their benefits instead of others. It's okay if he does things, but its not okay if you did those things. Basically he could be jealous of your past relationships with guys. Whe it comes to him wanting "virgin girls"..I really think that is rude. You're right there isnt many people who have never kissed someone..or been at least alittle affectionate with. It's interesting how he wants a girl like that because most guys want the total opposite. I think you'll just have to tell him that he has to take you as you are. You cant change anything about yourself, and shouldnt. Maybe he wants a virgin so he can feel he's better cause he knows how to do everything...or maybe power..or more experience..higher ego..or maybe he just likes a challenge. I cant really think of any other reason..or what his intentions could be with these "virgin girls". Or does he just like to be peoples firsts? It seems talking isnt working..but to a relationship that is the best way to get through things... Dont let it bother you..hopefully he'll come around. But I do sugest a calm conversation..and try to make him understand both sides. Or what I find works better is use a friend and say it as if it's your friends problem and then if he is giving advice..then say will this is what we're doing right now.. Hopefully I'm somewhat of a help.
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