DateAnalyzer Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I mean I thought in order to win the heart of a woman a guy had to show interest, call everynight, and give her attention. So when I heard that needy statement it pissed me off because am I supposed to just sit back and LET other men in this city win her heart while I'm playing it COOL and calling every 3 days? I mean if a guy is currently talking to NO GIRL, why wouldn;t he be aggressive? is there anything wrong with me trying to create a life for myself? I'm currently in the process of getting to know nobody and it really makes me want to pop a blood vessel because that's not how things are supposed to be for me right now. So WTF is the meaning of a guy being agressive and what is the meaning of being needy/desperate??? I'm 32 and don;t have time to sit back and try to be all cool and act like I'm don;t need her. Time is running out for me and I know how fast five years go because it doesn't seem like it was that long ago I was 27. Now here I am 32 and before i Know it i will 37. I'm just trying to do the right things and it just seems like I can;t do anything right. Whether it's the wrong outfit, my hair style, my weight, or somethng i said. Do i have to be PERFECT to find a woman? So the guys I see with pretty woman are perfect? DAMM This make so f*cking mad. Ok the rant is over,
StayClose Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Desparate is bad, but aggressive is almost as bad. But "playing it cool" doesn't mean ignoring her. Women are most intrigued when they are unsure where you stand with her. Thats why you shouldn't call every day. Make her the most important thing for you when she's with you, and then don't call for 2-4 days. That creates the uncenrtainty. Let them think you have a busy life and other women you may be dating, even if you don't. Do go to a gym and work on the weight issue. Also go to a hair solon that caters mostly to women (most cut men's hair too) but don't tell them how to cut your hair. Instead, say you want a haircut that works for the shape of your face and the type of hair you have, and beyond that they should use their professional judgement. I unserstand feeling desparate being in your early 30s with no LTR, but that shouldn't come across when you're dealing with women, instead, they should get the idea that YOU'RE the catch they shouldn't allow to get away.
jcster Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I'm currently in the process of getting to know nobody and it really makes me want to pop a blood vessel because that's not how things are supposed to be for me right now. One thing you need to realize is that you can't run your life by some sort of timeline. Where you are right now is the sum total of where you've been, and where you will be 5 years from now depends, in part, on what you are doing now. Right now, you are freaking out about getting a woman, and it's not going to be attractive to anyone. The desperate anger that I can sense even over the internet is going to make any sane woman run for cover. And, what is it about having a relationship that will make your life better? If your life is good now, it will still be good with someone else in it. If it's bad - it will still continue to be bad. A relationship is not what you need to make yourself happy - you're asking too much of the world.
annabelle75 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Paying her alot of attention is a good thing when she is into you. If she isn't,, then it is needy and desperate. It all just depends on if the attention is welcome or not. There is no clear cut definition. You just need to recoginize the signs of wether or not she is really interested.
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