sunshine79 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 i'm having a bad morning. woke up on the wrong side of the bed kind of days. i went to bed around 11, my fiance always stays up later so i can get to sleep before him and he doesn't have to be up as early as i do. well last night, same ole, he comes to bed, doesnt' wake me up. BUT at 4am his snoring is out of control. i wake him up and he gets irritated that i'm bothering him - not thinking of how much he's bothering my sleep. not to mention i have to get up at 6am. so 430 rolls around and he's still keeping me up and i'm getting pissed by this point so i start nudging him and thrashing on the bed hoping it'll move him enough to make him stop. well he stops and then right when i think he's in a position to not snore and i get comfy here it goes again!!!! so i get up this morning and i'm pissy, dont' say anything to him just pissy and kinda down for some reason. i go to kiss him and tell him i love him and bye and he jumps up and says 'don't mess with me, leave me alone' and that just hurt my feelings because of the morning i was already having. so i tell him i want to kiss him and then we both say i love you and i leave. i'm just bummed. we had a bad weekend due to financial stress and his job stress again. now monday morning is here and i feel he hates me. what do i do? i'm in tears sitting at my desk at work. we have vacation thurs and fri and i'm scared its' going to be a disaster. maybe cause i'm tired this morining or afraid he's mad at me or something but i'm stressing about vacatin and it's not supposed to be that way!!!! what should i say to him this morning? should i write him an email? he's been really stressed out lately and i feel like sometimes i take the brunt of it and that sucks and then this weekends finiancial stuff and then 4am/6am he's mad at me...what do i do........
BlueEyedSarah Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I don't think you should be worrying about it. Everyone gets moody at some point while having to wake up and go to work in the morning. He may not have had a good night, especially with you bugging him because of he's snoring. Just go into a spare room with a spare bed and sleep there if he's snoring is too much to handle that it disrupts your sleep.
Author sunshine79 Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 i know i'm afradi we'll get disconnected if we sleep seperate. maybe if i get woken up i should then get up and leave but nto have designated sleep areas. maybe that's the key. i wrote him an email explaining how i'm feeling and down about our financials and me taking the brunt of his worrying...so cross your fingers that this doesn't back fire on me. i hope it helps and doesn't hurt anything...don't see how it could but you neverk now with emails. ugh...please cross your fingers!!!!
BlueEyedSarah Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 My dad had ear plugs when my mum snored, maybe you could get them? . Make sure he wakes you up incase you do not hear the alarm .
Author sunshine79 Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 funny thing, i ordered these mack daddy ear plugs and have never used them and it was so bad last night i pulled them out. they were 15 bucks and put them in and i could still hear the annoying snoring!! i eventually did fall asleep though. woke up this moring to these gooey ear plugs and my hair was stuck all in them!! lol guess i didn't need the whole thing in my ear!! lol they are like dough but fit perfect into your ear.
jcster Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Earplugs are a necessity if your going to sleep next to a snorer. The sleep deprivation will kill your relationship faster than anything else.
Author sunshine79 Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 i'm slowly learning that. wish the ear plugs worked better...i'm guessing if i get woken up again i need to get up and go sleep on the couch so i dont' bother him just as much as he's bothering me and making both of us miserable. sucks!!
annabelle75 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Earplugs are a necessity if your going to sleep next to a snorer. The sleep deprivation will kill your relationship faster than anything else. Agreed. Buy earplugs. My ex-husband snored so loud you could hear it on the other end of the house. If I hadn't started wearing ear plugs I would be a widow and not a divorcee. Also, neither of us was getting enough sleep before the earplugs. With me not being able to get solid sleep becuase of the snoring and him because I was always waking him up. It made us both very grouchy and caused alot of unneccessary fights. Don't take his attitude this morning personally. You are both just tired, moody, and stressed. It happens. Don't beat yourself up over it.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 i'm slowly learning that. wish the ear plugs worked better...i'm guessing if i get woken up again i need to get up and go sleep on the couch so i dont' bother him just as much as he's bothering me and making both of us miserable. sucks!! Any chance he has sleep apnia? I had a college roommate that snored like that. Now he wears a respirator when he sleeps, his GF says it feels like sleeping next to Jaque Cousteau! W/E, no more snoring.
Author sunshine79 Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 i think he may have sleep apnea but he will not go get tested...he says it's not. i could be wrong and totally sleep deprived that i think that now. anyway, i'm going to set an alarm clock up in our living room tonight before bed so if i do wake up i can just go in there and nwo worry about oversleeping for work and both of us will get our rest. sucks but tha'ts what i'll do if i need to. earplugs will go in first! don't worry!! hopefully that'll work wonders!
amber1 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 i think he may have sleep apnea but he will not go get tested...he says it's not. i could be wrong and totally sleep deprived that i think that now. anyway, i'm going to set an alarm clock up in our living room tonight before bed so if i do wake up i can just go in there and nwo worry about oversleeping for work and both of us will get our rest. sucks but tha'ts what i'll do if i need to. earplugs will go in first! don't worry!! hopefully that'll work wonders! Doesn't sleep apnea lead to bad heart problems later on? Maybe if he knows this he will get tested...
BlueEyedSarah Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 funny thing, i ordered these mack daddy ear plugs and have never used them and it was so bad last night i pulled them out. they were 15 bucks and put them in and i could still hear the annoying snoring!! i eventually did fall asleep though. woke up this moring to these gooey ear plugs and my hair was stuck all in them!! lol guess i didn't need the whole thing in my ear!! lol they are like dough but fit perfect into your ear. Make sure your hair is out the way, tie your hair back in a pony tail if you have to. At least you fell asleep, ear plugs just muffle the sounds around you, not get rid of it toally, makes it less noise, of course you will still hear him snore faintly, so the ear plugs did help some what since you fell asleep. I still think you should stick to the ear plug idea. Maybe see if at the local pharmacy if there is any liquids or herbs good to stop snoring.
LoveLace Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Does he seem a little too fatigued most days? They that people who snore don't go into as deep of sleep and someone who doesn't snore. Is he overweight at all? My friend's husband snored but he was also a bit heavy; but his fatigue got so bad that he could hardly stay awake during the day. It took a long time, but she finally talked him into getting it checked out. He did the sleep study and they said his heart stopped several times a minute (yikes)....then he got the breathing machine for sleeping and he was a new man after that because he was finally getting good, quality sleep. He can't live without the thing. Now he has all kinds of energy and is almost always in a good mood. Somethin' to think about!
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